You should know that “relationship OCD” will not help your relationship. The most common reasons for breaking up are “too much control”, “too tight”, “too suspicious”, “jealous” but the top. So check if you have the following potential OCD tendencies…
1.Checking in once a day and caring about each other’s whereabouts
1. =”TEXT-ALIGN:left;TEXT-INDENT:2em”>Possible escalation symptom: More than single-digit calls or texts checking in every day. “What are you doing now?” “What time are you coming back today?” …… is like spying on the other person, but you don’t feel good inside if you don’t have all their whereabouts.
No matter where you are, 24 hours a day, 365 days a year, you reach out to each other as soon as you want (even if they might be in a meeting or sleeping). The actual fact is that you’ll be able to get to know each other and get to know each other at a fixed time every day. Some people continue to make those silent phone calls, or send blank texts, etc., even after a breakup.
2. When your lover doesn’t call you back right away, there is a hidden fire in your heart
Possible escalation symptom: Deadly call until he picks up. Even if it’s not a big deal, whether the call doesn’t end up getting called or not, whether the other person has a valid reason or not, they will be furious and questioning.
3. When a lover receives any phone call, he or she will ask, seemingly casually, who is calling?
Possible escalating symptoms: slowly develop into logging into the other person’s email and peeking into their phone call history, inbox or outbox. Once you find a phone call or text message from the opposite sex, it’s possible to go over the top and return it yourself, and interrogate the relationship and so on. If the other person is close to someone else (whether of the same or opposite sex), they will feel resentful and lost.
Although there is no evidence, there is always a suspicion that there is a third party, and they believe in their so-called “sixth sense” and have even stalked each other.
4. Ask to meet each other’s friends and colleagues
Maybe Escalation symptoms: Gradually develop into interfering with the other person’s friendships based on your own impressions of those people. For example, restricting the other person from continuing a relationship with someone you don’t like.
Save the “OCD”
In the above-mentioned “love compulsions” that may be caused by some small habits, we found that “sufferers” have these three major commonalities: fear of loneliness; jealousy and suspicion; and lack of self-confidence. The experts believe that the so-called compulsive love sufferers are actually trying to prove their presence in the emotional relationship in various ways. The most important thing is that the person who is in love with the person who is in love with the person who is in love with the person who is in love with the person who is in love with the person who is in love with the person who is in love with the person who is in love with the person who is in love with the person who is in love with the person who is in love with the person who is in love with the person who is in love with the person.
How to heal yourself if you’re stuck with “love compulsions”?
1. Record each other’s love expressions and listen to them when you need them
1. INDENT:2em”>When the other person says “I love you,” record it on your phone; and keep the love letters they write to you with you at all times. If you have doubts in your mind, “Does he not love me as much as he used to?” To avoid tangling with each other directly, listen to and read those sweet confessions. Love compulsions flare up because of inner emotional instability and can be emotionally satisfying if they are gently soothed.
2. Change the mindset
People who have a tendency toward love compulsions often have the mental premise that I’m doing this for his own good. The first thing you need to do is change this affirmation to a question: Am I doing this for his benefit? It’s better to take more time for yourself to understand what he really needs.
3. Don’t forget the BFF
The reason why you’ve been hit with “The reason for this is that sometimes you are too centered on the other person, and you are not in your own circle. The most important thing is that you have to be able to see your girlfriends for the first time, either absent-minded or just talking about yourself, and at least five out of ten sentences will not be able to leave “how my boyfriend is doing” …… Please stop being proud of your “friends over sex”. “The company’s main goal is to provide a comprehensive range of products and services to the public.
4. Control your breathing
Breathing is greatly influenced by emotions When you are happy and relaxed, your breathing will naturally become deep and long. This can get a lot of oxygen for your body, which helps to adjust the body and mind. And when you feel restless, lonely, irritable, or anxious, your breathing becomes shallow and rapid.
So, if you breathe deeply and long, your body and mind will be relaxed. It is recommended to use the “abdominal breathing” method. The method is to breathe through the nose, when inhaling, belly distended; when exhaling, belly tightened. In the process of practice, will slowly become accustomed to nature. A more effective way is to breathe in accordance with the inhalation – hold your breath – exhale the length of 1:2:1, respectively. If you can get a lot of oxygen for your body, emotional control will become much easier.