Everyone has a romantic fantasy about love. It’s always a fantasy of holding on to your son, growing old with your son, having a friendly relationship between your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, having a pair of beautiful and cute babies, and the heat of love continuing to rise unchanged…
Love, that is, no matter the age, no matter the family, no matter the height …for the sake of the person you love deeply, as long as you can be together, the rest is not a problem. But is that really the reality? Many realities have given our ideals a slap in the face. Not to mention the pile of complicated family relationship news, but said the idealized “sisters-in-law of the Three Kingdoms era”, “mother-in-law came” and other family ethics drama, are telling you: marriage is not a matter of two people, and married is definitely not married to a person.
Marriage is the union of two families
Cai Wenji once said that marrying someone is to marry a family. You are finally married, naturally, yours becomes his, and his becomes yours. Whether it’s property, people or family, they all become mutually owned.
A marriage that is set at 10 points out of 10, the man takes at most 6 points and his parents take at least 4 points. He’s not the only one you’re marrying, you’re living with his family. Even if the man performs well in all aspects, accounting for the full 6 points, if his parents are not good, your marriage will only be 6 points, just passing. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
In the long run, love will gradually wear away in mutual dislike, and no trace of it will be found, even in the old days!
Marrying a man is also marrying his family’s expectations
Falling in love Lovers in love often vow to each other: for richer or poorer, I will be with you. The truth is that this is not as easy as it sounds. Once you are married, you are carrying the burden and hopes of two families on your back. The fact is that the company’s business is not just about the company’s business.
Husband and wife follow each other, and women either take on the role of the woman behind the successful man, serving the two elders at home and teaching the husband and children, or they teach the husband and children while working together with the man. The actual fact is that they always need to be trained by the in-laws. Up to the hall, down to the kitchen, three from the four virtues, as well as the unique family culture of the family; otherwise, they can only accept the elders in the face of men say three, pointing, flocking to and fro. There is nowhere to redress the grievances for the rest of your life.
Three women, one show? No! It’s two women
Since ancient times, mother-in-law issues have been a major factor in the harmony of couples’ relationships.
Mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law are in conflict because they live together in a community of economic interests; or they want to keep things under their control, and these are bound to create conflicts.
If it’s just a normal mother-in-law-daughter-in-law problem, it can be solved through coordination, but if it’s an extreme mother-in-law, she’s in charge of all the big and small things in the family, and she’s talking all day long regardless of what’s right or wrong, or she treats you like a transparent person. That’s really bad. Your lover may at first also comfort you, explain the mother-in-law. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
It is not uncommon for couples to get divorced because of the relationship between their in-laws and their daughters-in-law, and it can be said that a large portion of divorces nowadays are due to in-law problems. Before marriage must carefully understand each other’s parents’ habits, but also to know their first impressions of you, you also have to do a detailed understanding of their family environment. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
Editor’s Note: Love is a matter for two people, and marriage is a matter for two families. Marriage is actually the combination of two families. To marry is also to marry everything that comes with this person, including his family responsibilities and obligations, and even more unwarranted things. No matter how good the couple’s feelings, in the encounter behind that family brought a series of troubles, the happy gyroscope will also fall down. The woman should deeply remember: if the man’s family let you down, then love can not marry!