Since I married him, his mother is my mother.” Countless women have devoted themselves to mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationships with such enthusiasm, only to realize after getting along that they are different from love and affection. It requires more than passion, but calmness and wisdom, even skill.
The prerequisite for respect: putting yourself in your place
Mother-in-law is definitely It is not a real mother, your real mother is the only one in the world we offend a hundred times she will not count, while mother-in-law, you offend once she may take it to heart, as you often nag at her too. The same clothes, give your mother, you can say, do not wear those stall goods, beware of substandard dyes that cause cancer. If you give it to your mother-in-law, you’d better say, “You’ll look great in this dress, try it on, and if you don’t like it, I’ll take it back for another.”
Gold Medal Trick: Gratitude
In our subconscious, we want to to be able to ignore our mother-in-law, so sometimes our mother-in-law fights us because she often feels neglected. When a friend asks you to go out, you might as well raise the volume on the phone and say, “I can’t go out today, my mother-in-law is already tired from taking care of the house lately, I’m going to do some housework today to give her a break.” I believe most mothers-in-law will not only be delighted to hear this, but will also advise you, “Go ahead, go ahead, it’s time to relax after working all week!” Or, when you come back from work, say to your baby, “Baby, were you good today, did you make Grandma mad?”
The essence of respect: let her go
She does what she wants, you Never play savior. Often the more you try to transform her, the more she will protect those deep-rooted habits like her wounds, because that is often the source of her sense of security. The actual fact is that you can find a lot of people who have been in the market for a long time, and you can find a lot of people who have been in the market for a long time.
The Essentials of Respect: Restrained Love
For your mother-in-law, you must Maintain restraint. If you lack restraint, you can hurt people in the name of love. Hai Qing, the star of “Double Sided Glue,” said, “After playing so many mother-in-law and daughter-in-law scenes, I found that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is irreconcilable in a sense. I think it’s okay to be nice to her, but don’t strangle each other too tightly, there must be restraint, keeping a little distance will be good for both sides.” Distance produces not just beauty, but respect.
An effective trick: compliment her every day
Praise is the best Respect, why not spare it to offer it to your mother-in-law? It is not because there is nothing to praise in her, but because there is a villain living in your heart, as if praising her demeans you. Please say a compliment every day, and especially don’t miss the opportunity to compliment her in front of outsiders. The first thing you need to do is to make sure that you have a friend over, and you pretend that you don’t mean to say that my mother-in-law is a good cook; when someone compliments your baby, you might as well say that it’s his grandmother’s fault.
The usual tactic: “The sun is shining”
Since she can’t change you, you must not be able to change her either. The argument between two women is always a lose-lose situation. The most clever trick in the face of her fingerprints is to be submissive on the surface, without having to argue. Family life is most afraid of the real, let her comfortable a little, you will not lose a piece of meat.