I have a girlfriend, two people have been together for almost three years, although usually we live together like a small couple, but how she is not willing to marry me, I am not young, after the year on the virtual age of 30 years old, and is the only son in the countryside, this The first thing you need to do is to get a good idea of what you are getting into.
One of the things I need to tell you is that three years ago when we first started our relationship, she told me that she would never get married in her life, but that she could fall in love with me and live as a couple. Since I had been the one chasing her, I was very happy when she agreed to be in a relationship with me and didn’t take her words about not getting married to heart, thinking she was just saying that or testing me.
However, now three years later, I have mentioned to her three times that I wanted to get married, and she has rejected me without hesitation. The last time was on Christmas Eve, when I booked a box in front of some good friends, ordered a bouquet of flowers, got down on my knees with a diamond ring and proposed to her, and I’m sure she was really moved by her reaction at the time, but she still turned me down in the end.
Since that day, I have felt particularly humiliated and upset, so I would intentionally or unintentionally avoid her. But what I didn’t expect was for her to break up with me last week. Although she is not the first woman in my life, but she is really one of the most loved women in my life, three years, I am used to living with her all. Every day I lived with her I was living with my heart and soul, and I was treating her well with all my heart …… But now we are breaking up, and I am really afraid that I don’t even have the courage to live anymore.
She is now living with one of her best sisters, XIA, and I don’t answer her phone when I call her in person. So I was forced to find this sister XIA, I hope XIA can help me, I can stay with her for the rest of my life without getting married, but please she must not leave me. The sky is always blue teacher, this is the first time in my life in front of outsiders tears, XIA is very touched, she said she knows better than anyone what happened between us, and said my girlfriend actually loves me more than I love her. XIA said as long as I no longer force her to marry me, she will definitely not break up with me ……
Then I asked XIA if she knew why she didn’t want to marry me. She said she knew, but had promised my girlfriend not to tell me. She also said that she hoped I wouldn’t think about it in the future much less ask why.
Do you think that two people can really live together for the rest of their lives without getting married, Mr. Sky is Always Blue? And what should I say to my family if I really want to stay unmarried for the rest of my life? My girlfriend is so stubborn about not getting married, what could be the reason for this?
Reply from Sky is Always Blue:
Hello from the East River! You asked me three questions at the end of your letter. I think that the first question is not a question and there is no answer, the key lies within yourself. The first of these is the fact that the two of them are not going to be able to get married, but they are going to be able to find a million reasons to break up, even if they are married.
Secondly, the second problem, in the opinion of the sky is always blue, is really not very good to deal with. I myself grew up in the countryside and am a brother in the family, so I can understand your current situation very well. Although marriage is fully free, and more and more people choose to be celibate today, but in the countryside, if a person is really going to stay unmarried for the rest of his or her life, it will still be more or less to provoke criticism from others, and may even be treated as a monster. This is especially true for your parents, who are having a hard time accepting this fact, both emotionally and traditionally.
So the sky is always blue advice is that it is better not to confess this fact to your family, because after all, the truth is always changing, and this change includes at least three scenarios: one is that you may be able to work together through you and your girlfriend to more long-term The other is that your girlfriend may one day be moved by you, or overcome her own psychological barriers, willing to marry you; and then there is one is that the two of you have never been able to get over this hurdle of marriage, and eventually can not live together and break up.
Lastly, let’s talk about the third problem.
One, she has some kind of physical disorder that makes her not confident to give you a full marriage;
The sky is always blue once came across a case where a girl was faced with a proposal from her boyfriend and she both wanted to say yes and was afraid to say yes. The reason for this is that she really likes him and is willing to live with him for the rest of her life, but she doesn’t dare to say yes because she knows that his family is a single generation and they are bound to have children after marriage. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
Of course, this case is only informative for you, but it doesn’t mean that your girlfriend must be because of this reason as well. Still, it is entirely possible that she may have some physical disorder, and such a reason could be other reasons, including sexual orientation.
Second, she has some sort of psychological disorder that makes her afraid of marriage;
Second, she has some sort of psychological disorder that makes her afraid of marriage;
This psychological barrier may be influenced by many things. Perhaps the environment she once grew up in gave her too many negative aspects of marriage, or it could be that her parents’ marriage was so unhappy that she was fearful of it. It could also be that she had been so emotionally damaged herself that she made herself more cautious.
Third, she is very cautious when it comes to marriage and can’t put her heart down enough for you;
When it comes to marriage, some women act especially cautiously, they are traditional at heart, they may even have the idea of three subordinates and four virtues, they don’t get married easily, but once they do, they are dead set on it. For your girlfriend’s situation, the sky is always blue think that although the possibility is not great, but there is also this possibility. She may just not be able to find a more suitable reason for you to get along and get to know each other in the long run.
Fourth, she is particularly stressed because of your family situation.
With all due respect to the sky is always blue, for your family situation, any woman would have concerns before marrying you. Because the situation after marriage is very simple, that is, you must have children, and may also have to have a boy. Thinking about the year my wife was even pregnant with my son in the womb, often sleep poorly at night, although I do not say anything, much less give her pressure, but this pressure she can feel from the surrounding environment. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.