The article “What do Japanese men and women of marriageable age hate about each other” was published in the Japanese newspaper Shinhwa Overseas Chinese, exploring the reason why men and women in Japanese society marry late or even don’t marry because they haven’t found the right person yet?
“It’s only illegal if you’re not married by the time you’re 30” is a “heartfelt statement” that has become an overnight hit on the Internet in mainland China. The “hot”. Many men also mocked themselves, they should have been sentenced to “wifeless imprisonment”. This is not just a joke, it reflects the reality: whether it is the individual “active” late marriage or not, or reluctantly “passive” late marriage or not, more and more young people in China are “left “
In Japan, too, young people are getting married late, or even not getting married. Statistics show that in Japan, more than 35% of single women and 47% of single men are between the ages of 30 and 34. However, 46.2% of men and 51.3% of women say they are single because they haven’t found the right person yet.
Defining the range of “fit” is difficult, but drawing the line at “not fit” is much easier. In addition to the most immediate, practical “material conditions” factor, discussing the “attributes” of people is more complex and difficult.
There are more and more people left in China, and two terms are becoming familiar when summarizing the experience – phoenix men and peacock women. The so-called “phoenix man” is the family’s strength, more than ten years of study, and finally “reverse” the male; the so-called “peacock woman” is deeply parental indulgence, clothes to reach out, food to mouth, enjoy the good The so-called “peacock girl” is a woman who is well loved by her parents and enjoys a good life with her hands and mouth open. Some people concluded, “marry a wife not peacock women; marry someone not married phoenix men.” It is not clear how much truth there is in this.
In fact, Japan, which is “in the same boat” as China, is also taking stock of what is “hateful” about “poor people”. The “hateful” thing. The results of a survey conducted by a Japanese media from May 31 to June 3 this year, in which 546 women and 523 men under the age of 50 with a positive attitude toward marriage were selected, are quite interesting.
The survey results showed that both men and women ranked “having a history of infidelity” first. In other words, a large number of Japanese people believe that if a person is unfaithful to his or her partner, no one will want to marry him or her. It is not surprising that “faithfulness” is one of the required qualities for a marriage partner for Japanese people, who have always emphasized the quality of “honesty”. However, in Japan, which has a relatively high rate of “cheating”, “fidelity” is number one, which is both ironic and a “cry”.
In second place, it’s “domestic disputes”. The women believe that men who hold the view that “housework is a woman’s business and men can ‘stand by'” will not be able to get a wife, while the men resent the women who “don’t have their fingers in the water”. The traditional Japanese family, the wife does all the work. Traditionally, in Japanese families, the wife took care of all the family affairs, including housekeeping, caring for the family and maintaining family relationships. With the change of time, Japanese women are involved in work, and it is difficult to balance both, while men’s perceptions have not changed significantly, which naturally leads to conflicts. The fact that “domestic disputes” ranked second also shows that Japan is experiencing a conflict between traditional and new ideas.
“Lying,” “ego,” and “capriciousness “and other attributes, ranking third. However, it is worth noting that men are more difficult to tolerate women who are “capricious and lash out when they do not comply with themselves” than those who “tell a small lie once in a while”; on the contrary, for women, men are more unforgivable for lying. This may have some relevance to Japan’s “male superiority” and “husband follows wife” characteristics.
It has to be said that many young people in both China and Japan hold the truth that “being single is worse than a good marriage, but better than a bad one” and they are the “woke” generation. They are the “wise” generation. These summed up “theorems” may, to a certain extent, really help them to be cautious and avoid being “left behind”, and also command them to carefully choose a partner for life together.
Beware, however, of the “wake-up call”, where even if you finally find the right person, you’ve already The first thing you need to do is to get the right person, but you will already have experienced “youth without love” and “love without youth”.