When married, women probably don’t expect to get divorced one day, but they always envision what to do if their husbands cheat on them. A survey shows that after knowing her husband’s cheating, a majority of women will choose to divorce, some will choose to forgive her husband, and very few will wait for her husband to come to a showdown with her before making a decision.
If you don’t want to divorce your husband after you know he cheated on you and you think your husband is still saved, here are three things for you to do.
One, the discipline blackmail method:
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Once a man “splits,” he can outwardly remain unmoved, but secretly take charge of the family’s economic power first, using family finances as a reason to make him contribute most of his income; take the initiative to promote affection with his children, and form an alliance with them, plausibly making him feel isolated.
At the same time, hint that you already know about him and let him consider the possible consequences for himself. Of course, if you don’t really want to break up with him, don’t be in a hurry to open up to him and show your cards. If you’re not sure what you’re talking about, you’ll be able to get back on your feet.
Psychologists say that finances and children are a man’s weaknesses, and as long as he’s not in too deep, he’ll hang on to them for both reasons. Although not without consequences, but for a betrayed wife, and unfaithful to the family of the man, even if a little discipline, the intention is to let him go astray. Of course, if you want the future to last, there will have to be more constructive communication and exchange.
II.Proactive Approach:
Rather than being passive, it is better to Take the initiative and ask that third party out directly to talk about it. I believe you will also be curious to know what kind of person the other party is. The relationship between women is very delicate, especially in a situation like yours. Although there are hard feelings, it’s easy to gain release and communication once one of you takes the first step.
As a woman, the other person may understand your feelings and admire your courage. But if unfortunately you meet a bent or unreasonable third party, you may also want to show your boldness and dominance. Since there must be a decision, then all three people have to make a choice without retreat. Of course, we are all adults and can be open and honest with each other without turning the ending into a farce.
Psychologist’s analysis: You are the most innocent and the most righteous one in the whole affair. If the most power-impulsive parties all take a rational approach, then everyone can think about the problem very calmly. What to do or not to do may be weighed and the result will be there. The quick and rational is cruel, but also the most effective. Don’t be afraid that it won’t turn out the way you want it to, at least you’ve made the best choice.
Three, the secret contest method:
and a third party hiding in the shadows A match. The most important thing is to give your husband more consideration and care, such as improving your cooking skills, cooking more of your husband’s favorite dishes to tie his stomach; understanding and respecting your husband’s hobbies and interests, and if possible, trying to share some of the fun with him; taking the initiative to give him personal space to make him feel that you are understanding; or coming up with interesting ideas to give him a new feeling… …In short, let him be firmly attracted to you as if he just met you. Then he won’t have to look elsewhere for something new.
Psychologist’s analysis: Men are bored with inherent gender relationships for their own subjective reasons as well as objective ones. The woman’s own lethargy and numbness about love can also make men feel bored. Although not to the point of intolerable to each other, but also has been drifting away. When the man is full of resentment for cheating, you may also want to look back at yourself and the two of you married life. If you are willing to make changes, don’t take this as simply pleasing the man, this is your effort to make your own love and happiness.