In the unit is a “smiling angel”, cheerful and sunny, get along with colleagues, warm and thoughtful to customers; once home from work, it becomes a “cold-faced devil “, bad attitude, manic temper, moving to the family rage. This type of people, known as the “workplace two-faced people”.
Hello, “workplace doublets”
The workplace double-siders are amiable at work, but bloodthirsty after work; cold to the core at work, but a little woman after work. The reason they do this is simply to better adapt to their work environment and cover up their flaws.
“An ‘angel’ in the workplace and a ‘demon’ back home. I know it hurts, but it is difficult to extricate myself.” . Recently, many people in the workplace have described similar confusion they encountered on the Internet.
This year, 30-year-old Yang Yingying is an office secretary, serious and responsible, also kind and generous to colleagues, she laughs off the mistakes others make at work. But once home, it became a different look, blowing up at her husband, moving is a roar, her husband also asked her more than once: “How can you be so good to colleagues, so bad to me? Is it possible that I am not even better than your colleagues?”
Whenever this happens, she always feels guilty, but the bad temper is like a wild horse that can’t be stopped. “I just can’t smile, because smiling has become a burden to me.”
How I became not “me”
In fact, this phenomenon of “two-faced” is not only a personal problem, but the development of society and the competition in the workplace have directly led to the formation of two-faced people. The fast pace of modern people’s work and the competitive work environment is full of intrigue, which determines that people in the workplace cannot get too close to each other. Although many people feel very depressed and sad deep inside, but on the surface but can only pretend as if nothing is wrong. However, once when the bad emotions build up to a certain level, something will definitely go wrong.
Also, “double people” arise because of fear, fear of doing something wrong, lack of confidence, or the inability to release oneself in the face of work pressure, leading to increased internal depression. The reason for this is that they show themselves differently in different situations.
Preventing “double-dipping”
< strong>Being yourself to correct your deficiencies
strong>Be yourself and correct your deficiencies
The “two-faced” person should understand that if he is comfortable with the people around him at work, it means that The “two-faced” person should understand that if he is comfortable with people at work, it means that there are habits in his life that are problematic, and the “two-faced” person should be himself and slowly correct his character deficiencies.
Conditioning
The key to avoiding becoming a workplace The key to being a “two-faced person” is to make timely psychological adjustments. First, be willing to serve and give. When the workplace people learn to truly tolerate and accept others and willing to give, smile will come from the heart, thus forming a good habit, there will be no “smile depression”. Second, to change the habitual practice of “polite to strangers, harsh to close people”. Our relatives are the people we can trust and rely on most, so we should be more open, warm and tolerant to them. Third, actively participate in cultural and sports activities, and use healthy ways to vent bad emotions, to avoid bringing bad emotions back home, affecting family harmony. Fourthly, we need to understand our own abilities and give ourselves a proper position.
Do more aerobic exercise
There are studies that show that in aerobic exercise The body’s whole body muscles get active, forming a large number of foci of excitement in the cerebral cortex, making emotions high. Aerobic exercise can vent bad emotions such as worry, anxiety and depression in time, thus achieving the empathic effect and reducing psychological stress.