After graduation, I squeezed into the job hunt and made the fashionable jump between several different companies.
I was tired of the same-old-same-old work environment, the endless repetition of labor, the pain of commuting to and from the bus, the unexplained overtime, the unpreparedness for stress, and I felt so broken that I just wanted to quit.
The opportunity came quickly, and I got pregnant. As expected, the boss of the company I worked for looked very bad. After all, I had been with the company for less than a year and immediately asked for the benefits of a pregnant woman, and he felt he was losing out.
In this case, I asked my husband to be a full-time mother. I showed him the reports in newspapers and magazines about the effects of radiation, about smoking and alcohol, about moods, etc. on the fetus, and I told him that there is information showing that children who have parents with them feel much more secure I told him that there is information showing that children with parents feel much more secure and that children raised by full-time mothers are smarter. The first thing I did was to ask my husband to quit his job, and I started to stay home to raise my baby.
When my mother-in-law heard I was pregnant, she was excited to come over and take care of me. I told her no, because I had quit my job and could take care of myself.
My mother-in-law obviously froze for a moment, but didn’t say anything. By the time the baby was about to be born, my mother-in-law came anyway and brought lots of quilts, clothes and stuff for the soon-to-be-born baby.
The old man wanted to love his grandchild, and I certainly didn’t object. After my son was born, he grew up fat and strong under the 24/7 care of both my mother-in-law and me, and was very attractive.
After my son was half a year old, I wanted to wean him, but my mother-in-law objected: “At least feed him until he’s a year old, you don’t have a job, and formula is so expensive now.” For the first time, it became clear to me that my mother-in-law cared that I didn’t have a job.
When my son was 8 months old, I was determined to wean him. My mother-in-law was so distressed by her grandson that she immediately went to the supermarket and bought the most expensive imported milk powder back. I told my mother-in-law that the domestic ones are also good.
But soon, the “milk powder incident” was all over the place, and my mother-in-law was celebrating her foresight and I was crying out “That was close! “The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services. The two women were surrounded by a small child all day long, and their opinions were not unanimous, so it was really hard.
After my son turned one, I persuaded my mother-in-law to go back and take care of my father-in-law, and I said I could take care of the baby myself, and she said, “You’d better go out and find a job, I have more experience than you with children.”
When I looked at my mother-in-law who was very doting on her grandchildren, I was even more uneasy about leaving the baby with her alone.
So I told my mother-in-law that I would take care of the kids by myself and save on transportation, outfitting, and babysitting, which is actually not that much worse than my job …… Not waiting for me to finish, my mother-in-law already turned around and left.
After my son started kindergarten, I had a lot more free time and had thought about looking for a job again. But when I looked online, the recruitment conditions were so harsh and the number of job seekers so scary that I really didn’t have much confidence.
I went to my old company and saw what I was looking for, but I was dismissed after a few words of harshness; I tried to send out a few cover letters, but they all fell into the sea. It is difficult to let me go to be a sister-in-law to take care of children for others? I might as well raise my own son!
So, I had to continue my standoff with my mother-in-law at home – I now take my son to school every morning, come home and prepare a nutritious dinner for him to eat when he comes back from school, learn something online about parenting, and write an online journal for my child. I’m now taking my son to school every morning, coming home to prepare a nutritious dinner for his return from school, learning about parenting online, and writing an online journal for my child.
I really think it’s a great job without the look on my mother-in-law’s face, and people in foreign countries give full-time housewives high marks, thinking it’s simply a great thing to do for society to avoid “problem children. “
In fact, I don’t even ask my in-laws for money, they used to care about their son, and now they care about their grandchildren, and they always take money to subsidize us.
But since I quit my job, my husband’s salary is all I have, and after my son was born, I was a bit strapped for cash.