Cohabitation is becoming more and more common, and there is no official statistic to show how many people are cohabiting in China. The only thing that is certain is that the global phenomenon of cohabitation is the most fragile of all gender relationships.
There are pros and cons to living together before marriage, and here’s a reminder to unmarried girls who are ready to live together to recognize the pitfalls of living together before you decide to live with a boy, and then consider whether or not it’s a good idea to live with him, because after all, living together is a serious matter.
Sex.
I wonder how many people live together to work out their sexuality, and I speculate that sex is not the number one factor in a girl’s decision to live together. But many girls still simply believe that sex is indeed a beneficial weapon that can bolster a man. And while a man may be happy to be able to have sex whenever he wants when he first starts living together, it doesn’t take more than 3 months before the sex life is usually more boring than when he lives apart, and then he suspects that accepting cohabitation was a stupid idea.
Money.
When you first started dating, of course you justified letting him cover all the expenses, but when you decided to live together, the expenses necessary to live together are definitely beyond the means of a young man who is just starting out in society. One day he will open your wallet and ask you to pay for the crystal vase yourself, from then on to start listing the details of the family bill. Of course, there are ways to solve this problem, such as adopting an intra-family AA system.
This seemingly fair approach doesn’t actually solve the problem very well, and you’ll still have no shortage of arguments, e.g., if someone turns on the air conditioner all night in the summer or someone is always on the phone for long periods of time, it won’t be long before the equality of the AA degree crumbles as well. To solve this problem once and for all, living together must be said in advance, it is best to follow the proportion of each person’s income and spending habits, each month are first to pay a portion of the family fund, other spending regardless of the size of each account, the end of the month to settle once.
Privacy.
When you don’t live together, he gets phone calls from the opposite sex, you express curiosity, and you may still be perceived by him as petulant and cute, and you don’t get his The first thing you need to do is to go through his small drawer. But when you live together, you monitor his phone calls and whereabouts, and use your phone to locate him at any time, you may have to be scolded by him as a small-minded person. In time both parties will be tortured to the point of collapse by this suspicion.
Living together is a very intimate act, but both parties still need to respect each other’s privacy. There is always a corner of the human heart that you don’t want to open to anyone. For example, you enjoy being naked and performing full body plucking on yourself, and he likes to spend long hours looking at his innermost tooth in the mirror.
Homework.
How many chores are there in a home? Wiping the table, doing the laundry, feeding the cat and cleaning up the poop, cooking, washing the dishes, scrubbing the toilet, organizing the closet, taking out the trash …… When you live alone, you think tidying your room is a fun way to pass the time, but when you live with him, you realize that you turn out to be a complete monster in his eyes.