A man always has a heart for cheating and affair, maybe he doesn’t mean it, but he will always have some different thoughts in some situations, when facing some people.
1. He and his soulmate
Rainy night, bar, long talk . He was hurt, maybe emotionally, maybe professionally. She was supposed to be just his best friend, like a confidante, but after the talk, she went home, and his heart was not at peace.
The gray area: she was so understanding, he was like a child who got an inch and wanted her for himself.
How many deep friendships between men and women can stop at love and be in line with propriety? If it does, it must be a true state of affairs. A friend of mine told me that one night he and one of his confidants talked about their hearts, and in the middle of the night they each went to bed. He left the door unlatched and had a sleepless night, imagining all the time that his confidante might push the door in.
He wondered if she was as apathetic as he was. Such fantasies tormented him, and as a result, that night, he had a sleepless night, and the next day his black eyes were chesty girlfriend asked what happened? He had to answer with a bitter smile. For some time, the media has been speculating about the so-called “fourth type of emotion”, an ambiguous relationship between men and women, and it is often the men who find themselves offside in the end. When he shares his heart with you, he must often want to share your physical sensations.
2. The female boss praises him
Simply put, just because his performance was better, that high single beautiful female boss gave him a praise, smile, encouragement.
The gray area: he’s wondering if she’s interested in me?
You can think he’s being self-involved, but men often think that’s what’s called male verve. He is so confident in himself that he may float around in bed late at night thinking that that female boss is lonely and in need of his touch.
The reason why he is prone to sexual ambiguity with single female bosses is related to the deep-seated “head of the family” complex in men, just like the deep-seated dependency on big money in many women. The company’s main goal is to provide a platform for the development of a new generation of companies that will be able to offer a wide range of products and services.
This is not only because of the “head of the face”, but it also means: firstly, he is handsome and has sexual value; secondly, other men work hard for a lifetime, and he can get wealth through a shortcut –This is a good thing, why not? The Global Durex Sex Survey reports that this is basically the number one sexual fantasy for men.
3. Road trip fantasies
The crowd is crowded, she’s right next to The faint smell of perfume, the white back, and the hidden cleavage under the thin summer shirt.
The gray area: did she not mean it? But it seemed to him that maybe she just meant to be next to herself.
The Beijing subway is said to be the hardest hit by “salty hands” and most women have been harassed in the subway. It is not known if there are women who harass men in the subway, but it is true that the close contact in the subway is a time for men to get excited.
He knows he is not to be rash, but the less rash he is, the more likely he is to start making associations. Maybe it was a fling, maybe it was a love affair that came out of nowhere.
While the woman is looking for romance all over the world, the man is also looking for the romance of his imagination. The fact that the train is moving to the end of the line does not stop him from using this ambiguous fantasy as a vitamin on his way to work during the long, boring journey.
4. With a buddy’s girlfriend
As the saying goes, a friend’s wife
As the saying goes, a friend’s wife can’t be bullied. But don’t forget the other saying that other people’s wives are always the best.
Grey area: why does he get to find such a beautiful woman? If you can’t get it, you can masturbate, or you can simply find a way to take it over.
She was his buddy’s girlfriend, and one day his buddy was away and entrusted him to take care of her. Most of the time when something goes wrong, it’s during this time, and when the buddy comes back, maybe the mountains and rivers have changed. He may have avoided her at first, treating her as a good friend, convinced that “a friend’s wife is not to be bullied”.
But the more he drew the line, the more likely he was to think about it. It may be that when men talk together, their buddies have already told the details of their sexual encounters with her from jokes, which makes him think more about her and his buddies together. The more he associates, the more he longs to replace it.
And as for taboos, a man seems like an adolescent rebellious child, eager to offend and trample – because he has a thrill of offense. The fantasy has something to do with buddy girlfriends, and also with the male sense of competition. Never believe that buddy friendships are unbreakable; history is not short of stories of ironclad allies turning against each other for beauty.
5. The girl wandering the streets at night
You’re wandering the streets alone like a
You’re wandering the streets alone like a lonely ghost, maybe you had a fight with your boyfriend, maybe you’re depressed at work and just want to blow off steam.
Grey area: the single girl with no man around, who of course feels like hitting on her and even kissing her.
In his mind, this seemed to offer an opportunity to take advantage of the situation. It is certainly less than honorable to take advantage of a man’s danger, but the one night of a casual encounter lurks in the hearts of many men. The reason why he is interested in you wandering the streets in the middle of the night is that you make him feel alone and in need of comfort in the first place.
A man is chivalrous – it may actually be sexual desire, but he thinks he is doing a good deed. The second is the wandering girl he happens to meet in the middle of the night, even if it’s a one-night stand, but irresponsible and unattached – the fast-paced modern life has made him too tired to have any emotional entanglements, and such a dewy love affair fits his psychology.
So why is it that when a lone woman comes home in the middle of the night, there are often bold men whistling at her and timid men having to make associations, because many men find that this is an easy time to be ambiguous.
6. A nurse in a white uniform
He was sick, and the ambulance whistled And a beautiful angel-like nurse came down from the sky with a medicine cabinet, and he enjoyed her warm care, and she shushed him, and the warmth of the world seemed to be gathered in one place.
Grey Area: The Heidi Sexology Report – Men’s Volume mentions that for most men, hospital nurses are easy targets for ambiguity.
A novel by a famous author mentions the episode of a man who, because of an illness, enjoyed the careful care of a nurse. She was professional, but he thought about it and always felt that the nurse was particularly interested in him. From then on, he was looking forward to being sick soon so that he could have the opportunity to get close to that beautiful nurse.
Why is he prone to be ambiguous with the nurse? One is that the more vulnerable a man is, the more he needs sex and comfort. Secondly, because the nurse takes care of him, which is her professional need, but he is prone to be self-absorbed. Moreover, nurses tend to be gentle and considerate, with the potential of a virtuous wife and mother.
7. The boss’s female secretary
The company’s ANN replaced the highly vocal Jian Li and became the assistant general manager. In the eyes of the outside world, this was a fairly normal personnel change, but rumors gradually spread around the office that ANN was promoted because she had that kind of relationship with the general manager.
The gray area: if she can have a secret relationship with another man, can she also have a relationship with herself?
It turns out that the rumors were all revealed by Jian Li to his colleagues, intentionally or unintentionally, through a lunch break with them over coffee. Jian Li was originally interested in ANN, but ANN politely rejected him, which made him feel hurt. In some men’s minds, their inner machismo makes them always look down on women who are talented.
Especially when women actually become their bosses one day and boss them around, it makes their male ego even more unbearable. So they take it for granted that if a woman gets promoted, she must have some kind of ambiguous deal with her boss to achieve her goal.
This is somewhat tinged with jealousy and a sense of masturbation. All female secretaries and bosses in fact have inappropriate male and female relationships – this is the truth that the world of men firmly believe. Perhaps such gossip will not bring about an improvement in his environment in the workplace, but he hopes to balance his wounded male ego in this way – I didn’t get promoted, it’s not that I’m incompetent, it’s that I didn’t have the opportunity to have that kind of ambiguous deal with my boss.