Everyone has a “dominant” and “recessive” personality. In other words, we can see the explicit, but we can’t see and touch the invisible, so to love a man, you have to know what the man’s invisible psyche is like.
A very lively person actually harbors a very depressed side, while another very quiet person is likely to become restless in another unfamiliar environment. The sea of people is vast, how can we distinguish men and find the happiness that really belongs to them? I teach you a few tricks to see the invisible personality of a man and easily find the one who loves you.
Find the one who loves you
As the saying goes “It’s not the enemy,” and this is often the case with love, where two people love and hate each other, fight and fight, but love each other to death. For this kind of psychology, psychologists believe that one of the reasons for the strong attraction between lovers is actually the search for the complete self.
Psychologists believe that everyone has both an “explicit” and “implicit” (or “shadow”) personality. “shadow”) personality. In other words, in addition to the outwardly visible “dominant personality,” each person has a “shadow personality” that is the opposite, hidden in the mind.
That is, a very lively person has a very depressed side, and a very quiet person is likely to become agitated in another unfamiliar environment.
In psychological terms, the shadow personality of the “analytic” person is the “feeling type” because The “analytical” person emphasizes logical thinking and objective judgment, but when he emphasizes and expresses “rationality”, he unconsciously represses the delicate and emotional “sensual” part of his personality into the depths of his subconscious. The “shadow personality” is a subconscious one that is repressed into the depths of the subconscious.
So, when one meets a person with one’s own “shadow personality,” one’s heart often leaps with joy because the other person reveals something that one lacks (or has suppressed).
It is said that love interests are usually complementary for this reason. The silent person who meets a lively person is often his “shadow personality” that sees the sunlight and is inspired to become extremely happy and free from the shackles of the mind.
This process of opposites attracting, of the “shadow personality” and the “dominant personality” integrating and complementing each other, will gradually develop This process is also known by psychologists as the quest for the “whole self.
But this bond is also often called the painful part of love, where the qualities that used to be most attractive to us in the past become the most unbearable to you in the so-called bonding. If it was his gentleness that you fell in love with in the past, it is likely that you will complain about his lack of masculinity, and if it was her liveliness that you fell in love with, it is also likely that you will find her “nagging” and “childish”.
When you’re in love, you think you’ve met the best person in the world, but when you get to the bonding stage, you start to see the other person’s numerous flaws and start to complain about them. The reason is, at this stage, we all want to try to transform each other, to each other into imaginary perfection, so the pain also arises. Many people don’t make it through this phase and end up in pain.
How can we make the relationship go smoother? Psychologists believe there is only one way to do this, and that is to give up the illusion of making the other person perfect, not to focus on the other person, but to turn around and refocus on the integration and growth of your own “dominant” and “recessive” personalities, and to focus on expanding your own The “shadow personality”.
When you give up on changing the other person, you are actually learning to expand your own “shadow personality. It’s interesting to note that often when a couple is in a good relationship, when one person gives up changing the other, the other person becomes more and more influenced and unknowingly becomes more and more alike.
How to fall in love with the right person
Falling in love with the right person at the right time It takes a lot of factors in it.
The first one is: you need to be financially independent. You should be able to support yourself. Not if you have a successful career.
The second one: it depends on your luck. After all, there aren’t many good girls these days.
Third: just go with the flow.
Also, if your gut tells you that you’ve met someone who is very worthy of loving you. Just be sure to grab it and don’t let go. Take care of this relationship with your heart. Because of the feelings of the East in the current material flow of society seems to be unbearable. Love well. There is a cause to have fruit. If you are afraid to love. It’s hard to get true love!
Make everyone who loves happy
The true meaning of relationships is to have no demands. Loving someone is not about getting something out of them; you love someone and are willing to be good to them because it feels good to be happy.
That’s why it’s criticized that this is a heartless age, because everyone is giving their feelings while it’s like a business. When going to love someone, one likes to make sure that he loves them first, and if he doesn’t, don’t love them; but the other person will think so too, so the two will have to wait in vain for the good days to slip by in vain.
A relationship is a giving, not a getting, and should not count on how much the other person can give you, because there is nothing to give in the first place. The person in love can also sacrifice for love, but this sacrifice must be willingly, not condescending, very reluctant, and then ask the other party to repay.
Some people say that great love should be able to stand the test, but since the relationship is so valuable, it should be carefully taken care of, not something to be tested. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
Don’t test love, but don’t be afraid to test it either, and don’t be afraid that it will fail. Everyone, of course, wants love to be talked about plainly and smoothly for the rest of their lives without any problems. But if love has to suffer some twists and turns, some blows, some hurts, we can stand up to it.
If we do lose it, it is only a superficial or formal loss, but we can have it forever in our lives.
On the other hand, don’t overestimate love in these times, because love is a gift that everyone has and should never be given away. When you meet someone who is suitable and in love, go ahead and accept it and work hard to maintain the relationship well.
But how do you measure whether love is sustainable? Perhaps there is a criterion: having more pleasure than pain in love will make the power of upward mobility itself greater than the power of downward mobility. It makes the satisfaction of each person greater than what you want.
Life may still be happy without fame, wealth, and power. If life is without love, the chances of happiness are slim to none. It is only good to welcome the love we get and try our best to enjoy it and avoid the pain, the hurt it will bring us.
Editorial conclusion
The meeting of people and people is a A kind of destiny and a strange encounter in the underworld. It should not be accepted blankly, but think rationally and analyze the underlying personality, which can help you find the love of your life. Learn how to make the loved one happy, find the essence of happiness in the process of interaction, and find the know-how to get along with it in the process of reflection. Maybe by that time, you are already incredibly happy.