Sister-brother relationships are nothing more than a relationship where the woman is older than the man and it looks like the sister is carrying the brother.
Sociologists say that “sister” and “brother” falling in love is a rebellion against tradition, because society The marriage pattern of the older man and the younger woman is already deeply rooted. This kind of love will be met with more opposition and hindrance.
Psychologists say that sibling love is a combination of female “mothering” and male “Oedipal complex”, which boils down to
But “siblings” who are deeply in love don’t care if sibling love is a rebellion, and “beating up the lovebirds” is the biggest rebellion. The biggest rebellion. The most important thing is that they don’t care what they fall in love with each other because love should not be mature and childish. “The only thing in the world that can’t be hidden is love and coughing”, in their opinion, brother-sister love is also love, love is love, there is no need to hide. What is the result, both people will not think too much about it.
Love, indeed, does not need to be disguised, but the love we expect is a long-lasting emotional anchor, not a fleeting passion. And as more and more letters from the Internet prove, sister-brother relationships are often just a momentary passion that turns out to be less than desirable.
The external factor, of course, is the reality that society still can’t accommodate sibling relationships, and the traditional “big man, small woman” model of marriage is still the norm.
There are people who think, “You’re wrong, I don’t have a problem with sibling relationships. The sisters around you don’t have much to say about it either. You can accept it because you have not really experienced, once experienced, the surrounding eyes will become different, the first to interfere and oppose, must be your parents. In fact, it doesn’t matter how big this traditional force is, what matters is how courageous you and he are, and how strong you are in withstanding the pressure, controversy, and opposition.
Inherent factors, there are your own reasons and the other person’s. But the root of the problem is the age gap between the “siblings”.
In general, this age is not the biological age, but the mental age. If a man’s physical age is small, but his mental age is very mature, then there is not much of a problem. But the truth is that women of the same biological age are often more mature than men, not to mention that women are a few years older than men.
When boys are still playing basketball on the playground, girls of the same age have already fantasized about countless Prince Charming; when boys have feelings for the opposite sex, girls of the same age have already thought about marrying someone to give birth; and when men of the same age start planning to get married, women are afraid that they have already learned the art of the royal husband The first thing you need to do is to learn the art of the man.
So, when you fall in love with a man younger than you are, it is inevitable that you will encounter a man who is also psychologically adolescent, and the more time passes, the more the naive and childish side of the young man will be exposed. The more time that passes, the more the naive side of the young man will be exposed. Faced with such an immature “brother”, how can a woman psychologically accept it?
The immaturity of men is not as easy to deal with as women think. Do not know how to take care of their own little man, many things have not experienced, which will make you unconsciously become an old mother, always care, everywhere worry; first taste of love little man, simply do not know how to live, do not know how to feel for women; economic strength of the little man, to take money from your bag from time to time, and you have to pretend to be willing to give him to spend, so that he spent peace of mind; have not had enough to play with the little man. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
The bottom line is that when the “brother” has an unstable career and a lack of financial resources, the “sister” is at peace with herself. The most important thing is that when the “brother” career is unstable, the economic strength is not enough, “sister” has tended to calm, she wants a stable marriage, a husband can rely on and a comfortable home. These, “brother” simply can not give. The man thinks the woman is willing to wait a few more years for herself, but the woman really can’t wait any longer.
So women who haven’t chosen sibling relationships should be aware that the longevity of sibling relationships is never just dependent on the man, but they need to pay more, and as the “sister”, you can’t The woman who has not yet chosen a brother-in-law relationship should be aware that the longevity of a brother-in-law relationship does not depend only on the man, but she has to give more.
Besides, men who choose sibling relationships want to be taken care of, pampered by women, more eager for a woman’s mother-like embrace, more need for experienced women to help them The problem is solved. The little man all kinds of mentally immature performance, so you have to have more, prepare more. When you look older and the little man is getting more mature, will the other party abandon you? You might as well ask yourself first: can I sustain my charm and keep him smitten?
If you love him so much you don’t know what to do with him, you don’t have to worry too much about it.
The best way to deal with questions from family and friends is to prove how sweet your love is with your actions, so that others can see that there is no psychological distance between you despite the age difference. The best way to get the most out of a young man’s immaturity and outside temptations is to use your own wisdom and maturity to make up for it – tolerance, understanding, patience, mindfulness.