Being married is both a surprise and a joy. It’s a great opportunity for a woman to finally enter another phase of her life. The shock is coming into a new environment and not knowing what to expect. In the in-laws, the mother-in-law is a special role. The father-in-law and husband are usually not very good at taking care of the little things in the house, and it is the daughter-in-law and mother-in-law who directly take care of the house. If you have a good relationship with your mother-in-law, you can completely ignore the others, and she will stand in front of you if something happens. On the contrary, you will be miserable. The first thing you need to do is to get a few things off your chest.
China has a tradition of difficult relationships between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and it hasn’t improved with socio-economic development, and there are still widespread cases of divorce because of mother-in-law. As a new daughter-in-law, once she walks into her mother-in-law’s house, her heart will inevitably go up and down. Why will the mother-in-law will be picky about her daughter-in-law’s nose and eyes? The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible solution to the problem.
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Mother-in-law was also a new daughter-in-law back then, and also to her own mother-in-law. The previous generation of mothers-in-law were more traditionally influenced than the current mothers-in-law, and relatively speaking, as a daughter-in-law had to stoop to her mother-in-law’s level. The newest generation of the company is the one that has been in the business for more than a decade.
And the mother-in-law will compare her daughter-in-law’s behavior with her own back then, and if she does less, she feels bad. Just like you look at colleagues in the office to do less work, they do more work, and did not take more than others. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
2. The mother-in-law is not ready for her son to leave the nest.
In modern society, many people spend their teenage years away at school, so it is quite natural to assume that the parents at home are used to it. In fact, it is precisely because they left home at a young age and did not spend much time together that their parents are doubly concerned, especially as mothers.
Son is away at school, away at work, and currently at home only satisfying himself by chattering to his friends and family about his children’s accolades and such. Suddenly within a few years, the son got married, had his own family, and belonged to another woman. The mother’s heart was hard.
Some people say, “Isn’t the family pushing for marriage? In fact, the rush to marry is just a fear of social pressure on her child, it does not mean that she is ready for her son to belong to another woman. When her son gets married and really organizes his own family and pays less attention to his parents, she will feel despondent. Tossing the daughter-in-law is a way to vent.
3. The mother-in-law feels that her son is all that matters.
This kind of mother-in-law is the hardest to deal with and the biggest possible situation to mess up. Chinese parents always look at their children as their own possessions, and when the child grows up and has an opinion, she doesn’t show it on the surface, but in fact this idea consistently hasn’t changed.
If the son is the stronger one with his own ideas that make her feel out of control, let him be. If it’s a son with a less strong personality, it’s not surprising that she would act very strong and interfere in every aspect of her son’s life.
Also in Chinese society there is an idea that unfiliality is the greatest, and this is a good reason for a strong mother to give the usual “Do you want to be angry with me”, “Do you want to kill me? “The way I’ve raised you with great pains, and this is the kind of wife you find to repay me,” and so on, come from this notion of filial piety.
Don’t be frustrated as a new daughter-in-law with all the unhappiness that comes with meeting your mother-in-law. A mother-in-law is also a person, and a woman. It means that the daughter-in-law and mother-in-law still have a place to turn. How should a new daughter-in-law communicate to please her mother-in-law? The new daughter-in-law can put it into action after she has figured out what her mother-in-law thinks.
How can a new daughter-in-law please her mother-in-law?
1. Meet up to go shopping together
The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to its customers. Grandmother has been with the grandchildren, clothes will certainly not be too sophisticated, but also do not have time to shop. Especially after the baby is in daycare, isn’t it time to dress up the old lady too?
In the process of shopping, not only do you relax your mother-in-law, but you may also find that you both like the same style of plaid dresses and the same color of curtain tablecloths. All these common languages can be a bridge to build their friendship.
2. Take your mother-in-law to dinner together often
In the presence of good food The people are usually in a good mood, so don’t just focus on yourself as a gourmet, food not only you love to eat, your mother-in-law also loves to eat, she is just bound by the previous concept, thinking of saving as much as possible, so there is no requirement for food, if you take your mother-in-law occasionally in a month to eat the snack food she has not eaten, even if it does not fit her taste, but there is not such a saying, well “The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
Love the same cuisine, plus your mother-in-law is a master who loves to cook, that’s even better. The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can totally study together how the food in other people’s restaurants is made, and after a while, there is a fellowship, how high can the chances of frictional cold war be?
3. Teach your mother-in-law to surf the Internet
The online world is colorful and new, who says that only young people like to surf the Internet and who says that older people are slow to react, nowadays, more and more older people have become Internet users. So, as long as your mother-in-law is literate, hurry up and make her computer literate. For one thing, you can make the old lady fashionable too, and for another, you can finally have a chance to educate her.
It may be a little bit hard and tiring, but you’ll soon find it feels good to be relied on and trusted by her. And your mother-in-law will naturally feel grateful to you as she opens up her eyes and adds to the usual entertainment and diversions, which leaves no room for picking on your shortcomings.
We’ve all seen on TV that many mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law have a “deep-seated hatred” for each other. In fact, it is very easy to resolve this conflict! And don’t forget, both people have a common link: the man. Sometimes it is necessary to tit-for-tat, through the middleman to lubricate a little, is also a good practice. The two families are the intersection of this man, so it is incumbent on him to help ease the conflict between the two sides.