Every year before the New Year, there are many leftover men and women who rent a boyfriend or girlfriend to go home for the New Year. This is helplessness is also the expectation. Expect that they can quickly find a significant other to get married, you can get rid of such a heavy greeting. But women, in the side of the man to propose to you, you do not slow to rejoice first, first ask, he is not the year-end leftover man?
The year-end leftover man hates to “marry” is borrowed from the metaphor of the leftover woman, rightly said to hate to marry, means that the man did not really consider whether the woman around him is suitable for him, and does not consider whether he can afford the rest of his life. The second half of this woman’s life. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
“I am a 1985 domestic backlog product, origin: Liaoning, appearance size: 175 cm high and 70 kg. Although it is one of the three no products (no car, no house, no money), but good performance, now painfully low price transfer.” This is the content of a “girlfriend bidding plan” seen in a website forum.
The man who made the post is a typical year-end hater of marriage leftovers. In other words, he can be with any woman who is on similar terms.
Would you accept a man like this? He’s not ready to walk into a marriage, and you’re just a reason for him to solve his troubles. The responsibility of marriage? He hasn’t thought about it at all. What he has in mind is, let’s get through this first. What happens later, will be solved later. The problem is that the person is not the only one who has to deal with it.
As a woman, unless you just want to find a marriage co-owner, this kind of marriage is undoubtedly a bitter pill to swallow. What are the usual traps for this end-of-year hate marriage to a leftover man?
1. He wants nothing from you.
Doesn’t require you to be as beautiful as a flower, or as tall as a diploma. The material aspect may be slightly lacking, but his own conditions may not be bad, to diploma has a diploma, look at least medium. For women, this kind of man is not a good target, but win to get along well, each other to everyone is not too much requirements. Some people call it, realistic. The actual fact is that it’s not a good idea to have a good time.
Do you really think you’re seeing things clearly? In fact, he is in desperate need of your help to share the care of his family and has not thought carefully about married life, that’s why he has no demands on you. After the marriage, all kinds of demands popped up, and it is only natural to have conflicts.
2. When you’re in love, he’ll put up with you as long as you don’t touch his bottom line, and he’ll even be obedient to you.
Finding a man who treats you well is a woman’s dream. What is good? The most important thing is that you have to be able to be patient and obedient.
A woman’s heart is a needle at the bottom of the sea. The woman’s capricious picky and careful eye is recognized. The company’s main goal is to provide a good solution to the problem.
Do you think you’ve met a good man? Wrong. In fact, you don’t know him at all. He also did not reveal his true character and preferences in front of you. The woman, you are holding hands with nothing more than the one you think you have in your own mind, not the real him.
This also leads to a consequence. That is, once his wife and his family are in conflict, you will find that he will take the side of his family no matter what the situation is, rather than running around trying to untangle the two sides. Why? Because you are just a random person he married back.
3. After getting together, he quickly proposed to you.
A woman is quite happy when her boyfriend proposes. Two people together for a short time? It must be that men love themselves too much and want to tie themselves down, right? It’s really sweet to think about it. Women, in fact, there is another possibility for this situation: he simply does not care. Changed to a similar condition of other women, he will also do the same thing. It’s not because he likes you, he loves you, it’s because he needs to take a wife, and the sooner the better.
Marriage means very different things to men and women. For a woman, a man is a lifetime of dependence. The man is the backbone of the family, everything has him to take care of. The two of them support each other all the way, hand in hand white head. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
And for a man, a wife can be a lifelong companion or simply a literal wife. The minimum requirement is that she can give birth to his children, run the household, be filial to the elderly, and when he is charging ahead, his wife takes care of the rear so that he has no worries. If it’s a man with a small output, housekeeping can be dispensed with. It is not necessary to have spiritual communication, it does not matter if you do not understand him, and you do not have to get down to the kitchen and up to the hall. The most important thing is that you have to have a good understanding of the situation.
So the man’s requirements for his wife are not really very high. And for men who encounter such indifference, women, you have to be prepared for the pain. Even if you get divorced, you will still be left with a wound after wasting your best years.
Home at the end of the year is a hurdle for leftover men and women, there is sweetness and bitterness. The sweet thing is that you can go home and relax after a year of hard work and enjoy your mom’s happy soup. The bitterness is to bear the excessive concern of family and friends: when to get married? The man and woman have not? The first thing you need to do is to get rid of this pressure, and there are many ways to get a wife.
The faintest trick to casually seek marriage is, of course, the man’s own responsibility, but China’s thousands of years of the idea that men should be married and women should be married is also to blame. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
The biggest problem people face in choosing a spouse due to economic and social development – the blurred and impatient view of marriage. The blurred and impatient view of marriage. The economic pressure, social pressure, and public opinion pressure have led to the loss of clear goals and perspectives in choosing a spouse.
By the end of the year, from the family “forced to marry order” and self “forced to marry order” two kinds of pressure, the leftover men and women began to blind, want to quickly, to solve personal problems. But the truth is often the opposite of what you want, this fast food and emergency relationship or marriage, will make the marriage insurance factor lower. The result may be more of the opposite of what you want.
There is no substance to this kind of recruitment, most of it is an emotional venting. The brother recruitment, recruitment is lonely. But, marriage allows such despondent emotions to exist? Women should be wary of the men around you are hate to marry a family. The men, you are for the women around you is also for themselves, do not for the pressure to easily marry a wife.