Are you having a hard time attending a matchmaking dinner at the urging of your family and friends, only to have it not turn out as expected? If it’s once or twice you can still say that you didn’t meet the right person. If it’s a few times with such results, then you need to consider if you need to change your approach.
In the large group of leftover women, rising prices and economic and social worldly views account for some of them, but also a relative portion of them are left over due to personal reasons. For example, the inner personality, small social circle, the future half of the requirements of too picky and so on. When you get to about the same age, marriage and children are naturally on the agenda.
For older women to get married, wanting to meet more people of the opposite sex and broaden their social circle is the most basic and effective way to do so, and there are many ways to achieve this in today’s society, especially with the development of the Internet, which also provides considerable opportunities. Among the many ways to meet the opposite sex, dating is a relatively reliable way to meet the opposite sex for older women to be married. The traditional blind date has already gone through the initial screening by friends or relatives before the man and woman meet. From this perspective, dating is relatively less risky than meeting the opposite sex on your own. Although it is a bit old-fashioned, I still want to recommend this way to all the women to be married.
The development of modern economic society causes women to also struggle in their careers, relatively speaking, for their own space time are less, and not so much energy to focus on, plus reading are used for more than a decade, accidentally left. The next thing you have to do is to worry about personal matters in a hurry, it’s almost like a rush.
Nowadays, dating for leftover women has become the mainstream of contemporary marriage, but large and small dating activities have gone, why the results are always unsatisfactory? The actual fact is that you are not able to get the right attitude, or you simply don’t know how to correctly cope with a matchmaking ceremony, how to open up, open up to communicate what, what are the taboos and so on? The first thing you need to do is to take a look at the tips and tricks that can help you.
First: Create “opening points”
Instead of having someone awkwardly strike up a conversation with you, create something to talk about yourself. After all, it is difficult for both parties to find a reason to talk. You can prepare a little prop in advance, a book, wear a nice pin, a new cell phone you just bought, or bring a question to ask him …… all of which can be the topic of conversation. For each other, getting acquainted as soon as possible is like a political task. All you do is make that task go without turning each other off.
Second: Don’t gush to yourself
Talking Too many people in technical jobs are used to spouting off about their expertise, which is called informational conversation and is clearly not engaging.
And then there are people who don’t talk about their work so much as they talk about themselves and don’t let anyone else interrupt. This approach is a little more progressive than the above, but it is only a one-way conversation, the other party is not involved, of course, do not experience the pleasure and attraction of the conversation, and you do not get the information you want. It is also part of the task of a blind date to get information about the other person, otherwise how do you know if he is suitable or not?
The smart thing to do is to kind of have a two-way conversation, to know how to make the right conversation and attract the other person to join the conversation. That’s the first step to making charm.
Third: Trying to find the intersection in the conversation
With someone For example, if he talks about being in a donkey group and climbing a mountain every week, you can lead the conversation to climbing, travel, and scenery, instead of being bummed out and saying. “On the contrary, my favorite thing to do is to sleep in on the weekends.”
Of course, this isn’t about pandering against your will. If you can’t find a crossover and feel bored for a while, the best thing to do is to be a competent listener and respond to what the other person says in moderation, nodding your head as you listen, which is a minimum of social courtesy that will also make the other person feel good about you. It’s a minimum of social courtesy, and it will also make the other person feel good about you.
Fourth: Cut down on small talk
Often do a little squirming when you talk You’ve been doing some squirming and squirming while talking? This definitely sends a signal in public: inner turmoil and extreme lack of confidence! You need to change this unseemly behavior. How about forcing yourself to hold something in your hand, such as a pillow in your arms, a magazine, a drink cup, etc., which can increase your psychological stability. It makes people feel that you are calm and at ease.
Don’t do too much if you just can’t control it. The most important thing is to let the other person know the real you. You’ll be able to get to know the real you. Maybe he’ll think you’re real and straightforward.
Fifth: Small gestures that leave a good impression
Make people feel good about you There’s a little secret trick to get people to feel good about you. Physical touch enhances relationships and trust between people. When conversing with the opposite sex, you can intentionally create a little physical contact, such as touching the other person’s arm to remind them that a cart is passing, so be careful, etc.
If he brings a group of friends and family, such as a sister or aunt, you might want to gently place your hand on the other person’s arm for about 2 seconds or so, a small gesture that can cause the back of the other person’s head to secrete a happy command. It makes the other person inexplicably feel good about you when they think of you.
6: Gazing into the eyes makes people honest
Fearing the other person telling big lies to deceive you? Then you can increase your chances of gazing at him. This psychological experiment confirms that people become more loyal when they are being watched.
Last but not least, before you go to a blind date, ask through an intermediary The last thing I want to remind you is that before attending a matchmaking dinner, you should first inquire about the basic situation of the other party through an intermediary. This way you can do a preliminary screening and judgment, but do not be too arbitrary to make a decision, there is time to go to see a meeting and then decide. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
Avoid focusing too much on the financial and material aspects of the other person, and pay proper attention to the other person’s family, personality, etc. Marriage is actually not a matter for two people, but for two families. If the person is not reliable, then he has more money and wealth, but also not you can enjoy. What’s the point of paying attention? First determine whether the other party’s personality is suitable, then see whether the other party’s family can accept, and finally focus on the other party’s economic base. The first two are suitable, and the last economic base is what his significant other is most likely to have.
And focusing too much on the other person’s financial base can make people feel like you’re in it for the money, and while it’s human to focus on the material aspects, focusing too much on them is like treating your marriage like a trade and calculating your gains and losses.