The flirtation of Master Qian Zhongshu, which I believe is still fresh in everyone’s mind, is that marriage is like a fence, where the person outside wants to come in and the person inside wants to go out. A perfect marriage does not fall from the sky, but is manipulated by its two protagonists. If a marriage is compared to a glass of soju, how many degrees to reach the perfect temperature? Too cold will hurt, too hot will burn your mouth, I suggest: 37° is just right.
Temperature difference
There are such people who score their marriages, often when The husband gives the marriage a 7 out of 10 satisfaction rating, while the wife gives it a 2 out of 10. This is known as the “temperature difference” in the marriage. The people who want to run their marriages sincerely, they will score the temperature of their marriages so that they know the problems that exist between the couple.
Take the temperature of your marriage, it’s a good way to do it, just like your body temperature, the ideal temperature for a marriage is 37 degrees. It is also this temperature that allows couples to achieve mutual respect and care for each other, no quarrels, no conflicts, only laughter and gratitude.
High temperature
Let’s live in the red world as companions and live in style. The most ideal is to share the prosperity of the world, but marriage if a long time in a booming heat, will inevitably suffer a “fever” attack, burning themselves while also burning each other. The couple is bound to quarrel if they have their own views in the marriage and do not serve each other, naturally, high voice, difficult to communicate, even after how to apologize, that scar will remain and will not go away.
Again, if after marriage the wife sees her husband as her “personal item” and sticks to him every day, like a GPS implanted by the police on a criminal, every moment keeps the marriage in a high temperature. The marriage will sooner or later raise the alarm. The first thing you need to do is to make sure that you have a good understanding of the situation.
Low temperature
There is a comparison to distinguish between high and low temperatures in a marriage. Naturally there is no shortage of low temperature, if the temperature in the marriage is lowered to the freezing temperature. This marriage in the couple will naturally be like Iran and Iraq, the conquest of endless, irreconcilable, over time, the heart of the mustard deeper and deeper, until the final “see each other as ice”. The most important thing is that the couple is always running away from the stumbling blocks in the marriage, only to make each other’s marriage more painful, until the day they repent, and then to adjust the marriage, without great effort is not possible.
So, to have a perfect marriage temperature, you must communicate more, know each other’s mind, make improvements accordingly, instead of making personal attacks, if your husband hasn’t warmed up to you for a long time, a spill won’t drop a piece of meat, so that, eliminating The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to the public.
37 degrees
Conclusion: Marriage is a sublimation of love, not an accessory to it. It should be an accessory to love. Marriage, like love, requires tolerance and proper space for both sides to cool each other down. Like driving a motor vehicle on the road, the car is slow, to the appropriate gas, the car is too fast, to step on the brakes a little. When you stray from the lane, you have to go back to the wheel a little. The way couples get along, learn to express the love in their hearts in the right way, not too hot, not too cold, 37° is just right.