There are many models of marriage, such as the respectful, the scrap-and-fire, the noisy and scolding, the romantic and loving, and the ingrate. Of course, this classification is only a characteristic classification, not necessarily the right one. The first thing you need to do is to avoid a servant marriage if you want it to last.
The stability of a marriage depends on what is dominant, and various factors can change at different stages of the marriage, and what was dominant can become a disadvantage, and vice versa. You can often see that marriages that seem to bicker every day may last forever, while some marriages that seem to be respectful and loving and romantic are unbearable, and couples break up early, leaving people stumbling.
The classification of marriage is actually the classification of the couple’s relationship, what kind of relationship there is what kind of marriage, and what kind of relationship is the best marriage couple relationship is not a unified standard, for example, the couple respect each other like a good thing, but not necessarily Suitable for all couples. The most important thing is that it is not a good idea to have a good relationship, but there is one type of relationship or model of marriage that is destined to be difficult to last, and it is important to talk about it specifically.
So what kind of marriage model is destined to be short-lived? Or what kind of couple relationship is doomed to go bankrupt easily? The answer may be different for different people, but in my opinion, the kind of marriage that is not destined to last is a servant marriage, or a “slave” relationship.
In the relationship stage, it is very difficult for men and women to have true equality. The woman is young and beautiful, the man wants to chase her, willing to be a “slave” as a “servant”, to its obedience, the woman also frankly enjoy this “service”, relying on their own beauty, the The reverse is also true, men are talented or rich, women chasing men also exist, the party being chased is always easy to tail, unconsciously will be the other party as a “slave” to make, and the other party also The other party is willing to be “slave epidemic” in this way. The first thing you need to do is to get a good idea of what you are getting into.
It’s just a shame that a good portion of marriages don’t succeed in shifting gears and remain in the “slave” mode of the relationship stage, with the woman continuing her supposed dominance and bossing around. The faction has not been reduced in the beginning of the marriage may not be much of a problem, but over time, the problem will come out, of course, men love you will tolerate you, but tolerance always has a limit, men also have self-respect, and how can endlessly be “bullying”? The man consciously and unconsciously will have resistance, the woman’s orders are often not as spiritual as before, the woman is very sad, that the man has changed his mind, no longer love themselves, and women are desperate to keep their usual dominant position, thus more aggressive, so into a vicious circle, feelings must appear cracks, marriage is at the edge of the crisis, such as no brakes divorce may be sooner or later.
“Slave-paid” marriages can take the form, as mentioned above, of a failure to successfully transition from the relationship stage, or they can take the form after marriage. For example, the marriage of the husband’s contribution to the family is significantly greater than the wife, or because of the problem of childbirth, and the emergence of inequality, there is a conscious belief that their contribution to the family, the other side of the lower status should serve themselves, or the other side of some kind of disability and think that the other side is ashamed of themselves and the formation of an advantage, of course, some couples are unconsciously developed, is a subconscious, which is certainly not The most important thing is that it is not a problem.
As the weaker party, perhaps the wife or the husband, because they are indeed weaker than each other in some external aspects, because they are husband and wife, they do not care too much about each other’s unequal behavior, and sometimes they are willing to be the silent one behind the scenes, to be obedient to him or her. all obedience, even willing to be a slave. If the other party can see this, perhaps to this point, there is no big deal, as long as it does not touch the bottom line of their dignity. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
In fact, if you think about it, there is only a difference in the division of roles between husband and wife in a marriage, there is no fundamental question of who is stronger than who, who should take care of who, equality is the most basic principle of marriage, is a bottom line, must not be offended, but such a simple truth is repeatedly ignored by some people. The existence of the so-called advantage of their own and the boss, arrogant and unreasonable, no one in sight, depending on each other’s pay for granted, no gratitude, such people may be very high IQ but emotional intelligence is absolutely zero. In marriage, give and take is mutual, whether it is the wife or husband, we should try to avoid doing the so-called “slave” wife or husband, mutual love, mutual care and mutual concern in order to hand in hand to old age. The first thing you need to do is to make sure that you have a good idea of what you are doing.