Some women believe in the saying “good men are trained by other women” and “husbands are better in other families”. So they will be very willing to take over those “second-hand men”, but do not know that other people’s good husband to their hands can be different.
1. There may be some kind of flaw in his character.
Those successful marriages are a litmus test for a man’s mature personality, and a good marriage requires a man to have: a forgiving heart, a considerate heart, an understanding of responsibility, a healthy personality, a career, maturity, and so on. No marriage is perfect, the reverse of this statement, any marriage means that a person and another person’s mutual consultation, joint efforts, and continuous problem solving before stabilization. So a divorced man, who is likely to be somewhat flawed in some way, has not eliminated these flaws yesterday, and then inevitably will repeat the same old mistakes in his future life.
2. He is becoming less and less romantic.
Because of the failure of one marriage, divorced men become calm and rational. They are no longer like the hairy young man, may night in front of your window playing singing Dong Bu La; may for you obsession to pick the moon in the sky; may give you fold a thousand paper cranes and so on. Divorced men feel that romance is an unreal and unreliable emotion. They become realistic because the romance they once had is now an empty one. They believe that reality is reliable and that romance is a fairy tale from 18 years old.
3. He may indulge in lust.
This is a pansexual age, where the pursuit of pleasure and sexual liberation has become the collective unconscious of many men. When a man is released from the constraints of marriage, it is easy for him to get more sex because he cannot resist the various temptations. Indulgence in sex can sometimes be addictive, and foreign studies show that many single men suffer from “one-night stand addiction”. If you are married to such a man, can you trust him to quickly withdraw from his addiction to one-night stands?
4. He’s become more money-oriented.
When a man first falls in love, he can say to a woman “I want the beauty, not the mountains”, but in this economic society, maybe a marriage ends after a property dispute, so he becomes useless. The property dispute, let him become nothing. The painful experience, such a man once again into the marriage, he will be extra concerned about the preservation of property issues. He may have a premarital property notarization with you; his property status may be cloudy to you; he may even hide his private coffers from you, etc., because he already believes that feelings are fallible and hearts are fickle, so he will just love himself.
5. He will often compare you to his ex-wife.
He misses his ex-wife’s cooking when you don’t cook well; he misses his ex-wife’s hard work when you don’t do your chores well; and he misses his ex-wife’s hard work when you don’t do your sex life well. The first thing you’ll notice is that his ex is like a ubiquitous ghost that keeps coming back into your life and his.
6. He’s always looking over his shoulder.
The reason a large number of divorced men take a long time but don’t remarry is because he wants to find a better one. Think about it, just tap the keyboard to enter any dating site, the world’s beautiful women are waiting for the man to pick, he will not stop their own “hunting” footsteps? There is no better, only relatively suitable. But divorced men do not believe that they may be perfectionists, “rather for the jade, not for the tile”, do not find a better death will not rest. So once you get into a relationship with him, you will find that one day his eyes drift away again.
7. He’s become passionless.
Most divorced men are in their thirties, and men in their thirties are different from women in their thirties, when a woman’s sexuality is on the upswing at this age. When a woman’s sexual ability is going uphill at this age, scientific studies show that a middle-aged man’s sexual ability is going downhill. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
8. He is always ready for another divorce.
Although divorce is painful, the heart is immune and time is the best medicine to heal the wounds. Once a divorced man comes out of the wounds of a failed marriage, he throws the pain away and becomes more determined about the freedom and unrestrainedness inside. So, if you and he have conflicts, he will be difficult to compromise to make up for it, because in his view, divorce is no big deal. The actual fact is that you can find a lot of people who have been in the business for a long time.