If you don’t want to be celibate for the rest of your life and don’t want to be a leftover woman, it’s important to change your mindset early, forget about things properly, adjust yourself and take the initiative of choosing a spouse into your own hands, the more leftover you are the more passive you become. Perhaps the following suggestions will be of some help and inspiration:
A different perspective and mindset on the issue of “leftovers”
Leftover women don’t have to feel psychologically left over, but they shouldn’t hold on to the perfectionist mentality of “better late than never” either. The so-called “leftover” is only a relative concept, but also purely an external imposition to you and let you have a sense of urgency. What is “left”? Of course there is no standard, just people to the world’s so-called best age for marriage standard to measure. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
On the surface, it’s commendable, but when you think about it, unless you started with the idea of being celibate for the rest of your life, there are still some factors that make it difficult for you to find the person you want. The object of your choice, there are still some factors at play, that is to say, “left” is more or less some reasons, then you should think about the reasons in which. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
To have your own unique criteria for a good husband
Many people are looking for It sounds strange to say that many people seem to be looking for husbands not for themselves but for others. Of course, you won’t think or feel this way yourself, but sometimes you can unknowingly fall into this misconception. The most important thing is that you have to be able to get a good idea of what you are looking for.
This is not looking for what you think is a good husband, but rather looking to make someone else happy in order to win a kind of vanity. In reality, there are girls who listen to the opinions of others and find a man that everyone agrees is good, so they fall in love with each other with a dead heart, but in fact she doesn’t love this one very much in her bones. Therefore, girls should have their own opinions, to have their own unique good husband standards, rather than looking for a good public husband. The best one is the one that you like, and you don’t care what other people say about it (of course, you can also refer to other people’s opinions appropriately), because the one that suits you is the best one.
Be a little forgetful
What does that say? The more a leftover woman gets the more likely she is to care about other people’s views and opinions, and naturally more about herself. In fact, sometimes it’s good to forget about things like appearance and education, like talent and wealth. In reality, the rest are either in too poor a condition or in too good a condition. The conditions are too poor, so no one can look on; conditions are too good, so no one dares to look. Based on this, it is good to learn to forget something of the ego for a while and find love with the spirituality within.
Beautiful-looking people always think about their own beauty, so they unconsciously elevate themselves, and this will make you miss a lot of opportunities; ugly-looking people always think about their own unattractive appearance, so they unconsciously think of themselves as low, and take it for granted that others may not see You, too, will let you miss a lot of possible opportunities. The same goes for other things like education, talent and wealth, which may instead hinder your vision. When these things swirl around in your mind all the time, they take over your thoughts, and there is less of an intuitive and spiritual component, and fewer opportunities naturally.
Avoid the two extremes: too realistic and too romantic
Leftover women The reason why the remaining is more or less some reasons, as said before either too good conditions, or conditions are too poor, which is from the objective conditions, and from the spiritual level is also a cause can be found.
This is one extreme, the other extreme is too unrealistic, too far from reality, a strong emphasis on the so-called petty romantic complex, read too many Qiong Yao-style novels and spend the whole day in the fantasy of wind and snow, always hoping that their boyfriends must be the kind of Prince Charming or heroic rescue character. Or heroic rescue of the beauty of the character, and once back to reality, found around the man seems too ordinary or no heroic. Obviously, both of these extreme thoughts and orientations can seriously hinder your emotional path and miss many opportunities.
Don’t necessarily lower your demands, but do adjust your mindset
Many people will say that even if they are left, they will not lower their requirements and standards for choosing a spouse, and that they think it is because they cannot find a boy who meets their requirements that they would rather be left. This is understandable, and there is no need to lower the requirements, lowering the requirements is not interesting, it seems to give a feeling of a cheap shot. But in fact, the so-called requirements, first of all, should be flexible, rigid requirements are not requirements, and secondly, if you look at it from a different perspective or mindset, the original requirements and standards remain the same, but the opportunities may have greatly increased.
Very few leftovers are left because no one wants them, but more leftovers are left because they are too good and no one wants them, or you The most important thing is that you can’t see anyone else in your eyes. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. The demand for others, others are also demanding you, more opportunities for others, but also more opportunities for themselves. Whether it’s a leftover woman or a leftover man, in fact, what’s left is just a mindset. The woman can live a wonderful life without the man, married with the worries of marriage, celibacy for life, but also a way of life, should be recognized and blessed by everyone.
But if you decide to live a life of two people, then you should adjust your mindset as soon as possible and take the initiative in your own hands, don’t wait until you’re old enough to be more and more passive, but at heart you don’t want to be celibate for the rest of your life, so you just have to find a random person and get married. The first thing you need to do is to find a person who will marry you. The company’s main goal is to provide a good solution to the problem.