While it takes time to get over a breakup, no one wants to be depressed for a long time. In fact, whether to get out of the shadows quickly or to be depressed for a long time depends on the way you live after a breakup. A Japanese website has published an article on four steps to get out of the shadow of a breakup
1.Put away your love tokens from your ex
“First of all, throw away all the love tokens with your ex-boyfriend!” Actually, it should be said that way, but doing so requires great courage, and many people may have difficulty doing it. If that’s the case, it’s okay not to throw them away, but at least receive them out of sight in your daily life. It’s hard to get out of a broken relationship because people always think of others.
2. Block all messages related to your ex
Within one to three days after a breakup, block your ex’s social media sites, blogs, text messages, etc. It’s hard to stay calm when you’ve just fallen out of love, and your words and behavior can be abnormal.
Contacting your ex, or being criticized by your friends, and all sorts of other things can come up. Whether you go to work, part-time, or school, go home early and try to chill out at home for another day.
3. Give yourself time to grieve
To allow yourself to If you’re sad, listening to sad music when you’re sad should do the trick. According to the “homogeneity principle”, if you listen to music that matches your mood, it is easy to relieve the painful emotions. On the contrary, if you listen to music that is bright and upbeat, the painful emotions will not be alleviated because it does not match your actual mood, and therefore it will slow down the process of getting out of the shadow. Although it is understandable to want to be motivated by listening to bright music, it is best to avoid it if possible.
Also, I hope you can set a strict deadline for your sadness, because if you are depressed for days on end, it will tend to linger in your mind and be difficult to dissipate, and may lead to depression and other mental problems. The best thing you can do is to say to yourself, “Stop thinking about your lost love!” .
4, Talk to the right person
This is where we first talked about confiding. But be careful to avoid people who not only don’t offer advice but also chastise. This kind of person will deepen the heartbreak of a lost love and drag out the time to come out of the shadows. So it is best to choose someone who will not deny what you say and who can always listen to you. If you don’t have such a person around, you can also talk to a counselor.
How does it feel to know these four steps?
Other options are to play sports, get into your hobbies, or hang out with friends. Or try changing the layout of your room. It is also a good way to change the mood within an acceptable degree. In this way to cure loneliness, change the environment, you will be able to get out of the shadow as soon as possible. After doing this, the rest will be left to time, and the day will come when you will be able to come out completely.