Choose someone who loves you, or someone you love? I believe many people are faced with this dilemma. The two in one is the most perfect existence, but in reality, the probability is very low. Who exactly should you spend your life with? Neither one, but rather you should choose the one who is the best fit.
Many people, both straight and gay, reach a certain age and lament how the Mr. Right that belongs to them for life has not yet appeared, how their own capital is getting devalued and yet they keep waiting, or how they find someone who approximates The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
Mr. Right may be ordinary, but he is the one who will be with you all your life, who will love and take care of you in life, who is “Mr. Right”, but also has all kinds of faults and flaws. Although it is “Mr. Right”, but also has a variety of problems and shortcomings, but the attributes are loyal dog, can not leave you. And PrinceCharming is our ideal male, also translated as “Prince Charming”. PrinceCharming can give you a great process and memories but may not be able to walk you through life.
Everyone has a “god” in mind. In the process of finding love, from the very beginning, the search is based on the criteria of this God, and then slowly, each relationship gives itself different feelings, and the criteria of this God is slowly changing. What does not change is the obsession with finding God and pursuing Him.
In a way, this is true. Everyone has their own idea of love, either entwined or unrequited. Love is something that needs to be obtained, or achieved, through someone, and we have specific criteria, requirements or descriptions for that person. It may not be that every single thing has to fit, it is possible that having only a certain part of the qualities is already enough to attract. What we are discussing today is whether this too specific image, which is originally a concretization of the vague “God,” has become an obstacle in our pursuit of happiness on the road to love.
Whether heterosexual or homosexual, two people are really like that, in a four-part process of meeting, knowing, loving, and getting along. In heterosexuality, more often than not, each couple has their own different situation and go to combine together, or for material, or for career, or for family, or for the next generation, the component of love in modern marriage in fact does not account for as high a proportion as we think. In other words, pure love exists more in love than in marriage.
This has to do with thinking. We were taught differently than our parents’ generation about love and marriage, and we grew up hearing fairy tales about princesses and princes falling in love at first sight, hitting it off with a kiss, and then living happily ever after in castles together. But is that really the reality?
A relationship is the result of a two-way choice between two people. The most important thing is that you have to be able to get the best out of your life. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
The wisdom of women in the legendary circle of long-lasting husband-and-wife lives and decades-long marriages that are as respectful as each other cannot be ignored because those women who have happy marriages and happy families know how to reconcile the contradictions between reality and their desires, and they know that reality is not a fairy tale. Fairy tales. The male god is so perfect, and the story of Cinderella and the prince is only one from ancient times, there is only one Cinderella in the world. What we need to do is not to do our best to make this story come true, but to choose the one that suits us best among other men and live our own happy life.
Does that mean just settling for something? Of course not. The simple phrase, “to turn the ordinary people who fall in love with you into your own prince”, means to turn the consolation prize or second or third prize into the first prize. The so-called consolation prize is the person who meets the last few of your requirements, but the prerequisite is: the other person loves you and is willing to change for you. That way at least you are in control to some extent.
Specifically, it’s about ranking the one you can’t stand the most first, followed by the second, and the last one being the least demanding. The first second third of these basic requirements must definitely be there, no direct pass. middle option, can be partly fit, not required to completely fit. The last one is the one you don’t care about the most.
Of course, some of the hard requirements, such as origin, height, and appearance, don’t fit but you care about, so consider them carefully, because there is no way to change them later.
Basically, the man chosen by this method and requirement is the one you are willing to accept and he is also willing to change for you. Then the next thing you can do is for the two to rub off on each other. The advantage of doing this is that after going through a targeted selection, the bonding process is relatively less difficult for everyone.
There may be people who say, “I’m not willing to change the other person,” well, then be prepared to be single for the rest of your life. Some people also say don’t spend that effort also don’t understand how to change each other ah. I tell you, the world did not fall down lunch, there is no effort to pick up a prince for nothing. Even if the two love each other, in the process of getting along, to the stage of passion receding will need to spend effort and effort to maintain the relationship, the difficulty factor is 10 ah pro, heard of “entrepreneurship is difficult, more difficult to keep a business”? The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
Usually, Mr. Right will be a certain distance from the God in our hearts, not even tall or handsome or attentive, because if they are not far apart or exactly the same, he is your male god, and there is no need for us to discuss this topic. The most basic, a good man is to have goodness, loyalty, enterprising these elements, and loyalty is to be able to maintain the elements of a lifetime partner. This is one of the basic requirements and principles of marriage.
If, however, you still insist on finding your manhood, then, well, as long as you can be sure that’s what you want, then go after it. Life is just a few decades, and doing it without regrets is good enough.
If you can take a moment to accept the idea that marriage is, in fact, about choosing the best person for the job and walking hand in hand with each other to the end of your life. Then, you can start to start changing strategies and directions to choose your own happiness. Are you prepared for this? Can you be clear about what you are looking for? Get your mind right, or you will find that happiness is actually not far from you.