Sex is supposed to be a way for couples to communicate their emotions and relieve physical as well as mental stress, but now more and more men are feeling burdened by sex, and the stress in this area is no less than the stress of work. The reason why?
In most people’s minds, men are synonymous with being strong, but under a lot of pressure, even the “tough guy” can’t hold up. A study of American men found that 1/3 of adult men have sexual anxiety problems. The main cause of male sexual anxiety is too much “sexual burden”, which is reflected in the following areas.
First of all, men are forced to take on too much “work” in their sex lives.
In a woman’s eyes, a sexually competent man should know how to be romantic, but also have the skills to take the initiative; give her gentle foreplay, but also know how to attack powerfully; bring her to orgasm, but not lack of afterwards The gentle …… sex life is a matter of two couples, if the woman is always passive to enjoy, let the man bear everything, then the husband will feel the invisible pressure. The occasional mistake can make them anxious and worried that something is wrong “there”.
Secondly, a wife’s thoughtless nagging can put a burden on a man and kill his sex drive.
“My colleague’s husband earns twice as much as you do every month” “I do all the work at home and abroad, you’re useless. ” These will invariably add pressure to the man, making it difficult for him to raise sexual interest. During sex, women’s words are more likely to make men hurt, such as men ask: “Is this good?” The fact that the wife said “it’s okay” or “you can’t do it,” may allow the man to plant psychological problems, and even cause erectile dysfunction.
Again, the stress of work and being busy all day makes it impossible for men to concentrate on sex.
The Psychology of Perversion by renowned American psychologist Lauren B. Aloe suggests that too much work, pressure for promotion, smoking and drinking and socializing can make men too busy for sex. The enormous stress of life can bring on anxiety and keep men from concentrating on sex.
Lastly, financial problems and lower income can bring men a sexual burden.
A large British survey found that people with higher incomes were more sexually focused and had more and better quality sex. If men struggle financially while the woman is too strong, men feel like failures and naturally lose their confidence during sex.
In this case, women should stop acting as a saboteur of men’s sexuality and help him to “lighten the load”. On the one hand, women are active during sex, and will be good feelings timely feedback to him. On the other hand, both couples should not mix work achievements with family life. Try to say as little as possible to discourage men’s confidence. Finally, take a vacation at the right time, travel together and relive the feeling of love.