As the saying goes, a good horse doesn’t go back, and some people feel that it’s better to die than to go back, in order to save face. Some people feel that it is better to be familiar with people, as long as both sides are interesting and acceptable. Which one do you agree with?
Generally speaking, we all have about 2 kinds of relationship experiences. After the breakup, do you contact him? Other than being classmates or friends who share some of the same circles and had to meet, everyone’s choice is different and can be roughly divided into two types.
One is, I never want to see him again. The woman who chose to never want to see again, about this relationship experience is too deep, after the breakup do not want to uncover the old scars, want to let the wounds slowly heal with the passage of time, can again find their own feelings. This kind of thing deserves recognition. All things thought through, made a decision, for themselves to others are no regrets. If it is just to save face, in order to adhere to the phrase “not to go back to the grass” and choose not to see the person, we do not agree. It’s not a sensible decision.
One is to break off the relationship and see the two as friends again. Some people say, really loved, can not be friends. Some people say, in fact, we when friends than when the lover appropriate. The actual fact is that you can find a lot of people who have been in the business for a long time. It may not be.
People who have been lovers are mostly intimate. If each has a new boyfriend or girlfriend, seeing that you still can’t get rid of the old intimacy will only wreak havoc on all four of the existing relationships. Of course, we are not disapproving of couples being friends after a breakup, but we suggest that the two understand the difference between couples and friends and actually do it so that they don’t repeatedly hurt themselves as well as others.
The last type is the one that doesn’t want to see at first, but later feels that it is still in love and can turn back. At first, you don’t want to see because there is resentment in your heart. The breakup because of resentment, after the breakup this feeling can not be eliminated, but slowly transformed into the sweetness of the original relationship.
It is not uncommon for people to realize that they have missed out on a treasure only after a breakup. Although, we hear from time to time to cherish the admonition of the moment, but still do not take it seriously, to the critical moment to lose the treasure before coming to anxious. But after the breakup not every pair will have a chance to get back together, maybe one party is really put down, the other can only drink hate and pray themselves out of this quagmire as soon as possible.
When it comes to relationships, women who want to go back and get back together are really flooded with a hundred different emotions. In fact, the nature of your breakup back then determines the likelihood of getting back together in the future.
Man’s lack of responsibility
Not all women are
Not all women are gold-digging, but most of them hate men who come from poor backgrounds and don’t know how to get ahead. Whether it is the responsibility for the family or the pursuit of future life, we have to struggle, struggle. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
“What a snob, now that I’ve made it big, I’m coming back for more, and to hell with women like that,” he’ll think. But if every woman is so to him, he still does not reflect, then forget it. If you’ve got a woman who’s not in the mood for you, I’d advise you to forget about it.
We just don’t have the right personality
There is another type of relationship such as when Because of personality disagreement and quarrel impulse caused, you are likely to miss the old feelings, split up and still think he is the best. The actual fact is that you will be able to get a good deal on your own. The actual fact is that you will be able to get a lot more than just a few of these. In love, also take into account the so-called dignity of the people, is the most stupid but! Go back to your true love! If you don’t, you will regret it for the rest of your life.
If this kind of separation brings you more pain than pleasure, and you don’t enjoy it, and he is not the kind of happy couple, then we don’t recommend getting back together. It’s just that this kind of love is about love entangled, but not enough to rub off on each other, and it still takes some courage and strength if you want to cut the love ties.
Be sensible when it counts
If your guy has been in the sea The most important thing is that if you have a girlfriend, you will be able to get a good deal on her. In any case, the past girlfriend if not malicious abandon him, in his view the old feelings are still there. Once he had asserted his sovereignty over his girlfriend, so it was only natural that he would take the opportunity to return to the colony.
This is a good time to try to get a sense of his intentions. If he is also having the intention of compounding, naturally it is a dry fire, a touch but ignited. If he only when you are an ambiguous object, and no real intention to return, then remember never to deceive yourself. The ambiguous man is the most important. Not to get married for the purpose of love are rogues, this statement is very true. The woman who knows how to be sensible at the critical moment is the great wisdom. You think he’s good now because he’s in front of you, and you’ll find that the sky is still blue when he walks away.
Vengeful men, forget it
Just whatever. The most important thing is not to keep crying and crying and bringing up old relationships to get each other back, or simply do whatever you can to sabotage his current relationship – these will only drive him further away from you.
If you’re blaming yourself for thinking he was a junk stock and not expecting him to turn out to be a top performer later on with the intention of getting back together, you’re advised not to make a fool of yourself. The man’s burning fire of revenge, I’m afraid, will burn you to the ground, wrecked.
Of course, one other possibility cannot be ruled out:
You feel attractive enough in front of him that you can even endure every possible shame of revenge, or it doesn’t matter if you start as a junior, just because he’s now turned into a golden boy, then listen to what Shakespeare said: impure love aims, eventually The purpose of impure love will reap impure love. Even if you can get back together on the surface, who knows if those shadows will lurk in his heart and turn into a nightmare one day?
The hardest thing in the world to buy is a medicine for regret, and in the love world as in the workplace, even a good horse can eat its way back.
A good horse doesn’t go back to the past is just a saying, and its correctness or otherwise can only be asserted when placed in a specific scenario. If you ignore what you really feel inside because of this saying, then you are foolish. Giving up your happiness by face and an insignificant phrase from thousands of years ago. If you are blindly in denial, you may be on the path of repetition.
What to do then? To get back together or not, it depends on whether your heart loves the person and whether the other person cherishes you with the same feelings, and if so, then stay together. The most important thing is to hold on to your own happiness, never mind turning back.