What is young love? What is mature love? Is there a difference between green apples and red apples in love? Yes. Love is also divided into young and mature. What kind of love do you like?
What is young love?
To put it simply, young love seeks romance and passion. It mostly happens to young people in their teens and twenties. But it sometimes happens in some middle-aged people who bear the pressure of life, because the weight of life makes him feel overwhelmed and want to return to the youthful vigor of his youth.
What is mature love?
Knowing what you want, what you don’t want, and what you’re doing. Mature love tends to happen to people who are older because they have had some experience and know what they like and need in love again. Being sensible is one of the signs of mature love, but that doesn’t mean we can’t enjoy the romance of love. He will not necessarily send you chocolates on Valentine’s Day in a western restaurant reservation, but will give you a piece of his own mind. Romance and affection, mature love can have it just as well.
Young love is about an unknown romance, yearning for the romance of those movies and Korean dramas. The mature love is down to earth, in the usual life to experience the daily small interest. The young love enjoys the passion, the mature love long flow. What’s the difference between mature love and young love?
Young love ignores reason, mature love begins with wisdom
There is an impulsiveness to young love, such as love at first sight. Such love is not rational to speak of, emotional decisions account for the vast majority. Young love burns quickly and becomes a roaring fire, but if you are not careful, you will be burned by the fire. Mature love is like boiling a frog in warm water, starting with reason and slowly heating up. It may not give you the passion that sweeps through your body and mind all at once, but it keeps you at the right temperature.
Young love is at the mercy of God, mature love is at the mercy of people
Young love says that to fall in love with someone is to lose one’s footing, fall in love, and then bask in the sweet flowing water. Love is a beautiful coincidence; it is never our choice, rather we are chosen by love. This view of love is fundamentally abdication, a relinquishing of decision and autonomy: we feel that we are determined and ordained by fate, that true love will only be a true accident, and that when love comes more suddenly, it is the more real love. Moreover, this destined partner will be the ideal person, the messenger of happiness, in whom only happiness will be found; he will also be the right puzzle piece, the best match for me, without contradiction or friction with me. If he falls below that standard, he’s not a godsend and I can wait for the next one.
But mature love says that love is our decision and even more our effort. After we have chosen carefully and found someone who is willing to take care of our hearts, we have to cherish it.
Young love romances off the ground, mature love romances on the ground
Young love will advise you to go all in on romanticism, and picking the moon and stars is just basic. What it seeks is picturesque sentiment. It will take you away from reality and then step into the make-believe of movies, TV, novels, etc., so that you too can’t tell whether you desire romance or want the person in front of you.
But mature love will lead you to keep your feet on the ground. It teaches you to find romance in every tangible conversation, in every down-to-earth day. In conversation, genuine listening and responding is moving; in life, the unromantic trivial can be a nesting imprint. Romance may be as simple as taking clothes to the dry cleaners, getting naughty and noisy in the kitchen, refilling toothpaste, etc. Some people say don’t let love have the rest of the world, but if you can make each other feel like you’re there in body and soul in all the details of your life, it can be quite heartwarming.
What kind of love is good?
Is it better to have young love? Or is mature love better? Many people have this question. There is no love model that is the best. There is only what works best for you and what you can grasp.
When we are young, there is a high probability that we will encounter young love. Burning, passionate, romantic, such love tends to leave a deep mark on our teenage years. After work, it may be that you encounter mature love, warm, as if it were absent from your life, but you absolutely cannot live without it.
Although young love is youthful, you can grasp it and it bears sweet fruit. Mature love looks like a ripe red apple, but if you are not careful, you will also come across rotten apples that are eaten by worms inside a shiny appearance. This is largely a matter of how well you can grasp your love, and what mode of love you fit.
No love model is more important than the person
A loving partner who is happy to touch our souls with their soul is someone who has the potential to be the best partner. When we are persistent in building a relationship that is full of appreciation, full of understanding, our commitment will incubate a solid relationship. This journey will have peaks and valleys, and we need some of the old virtues to cope; such as self-discipline, when you are constantly being told what to do and set demands by him, you will feel enslaved rather than adored, so we all need to be self-aware enough to get along and feel that this self-awareness is a time to practice ourselves. We also need patience, because a long and delicate relationship also needs to be born in October and prenatal pains, and its fruits are planted with sweat and tears. There will be many arguments along the way, but we understand that the most important thing is not to protect our faces, but to protect the intimate connection between us, so the best way is to give up our weapons and gently confess our feelings and thoughts. This approach is like the trapeze act, where I raise my courage to let go of my hand and stop defending my security with my own strength, and instead, I throw my life into the air and then expect that you will hold me tightly in your grip.
This persistence is rewarded when we don’t just give up when we hit a rough patch. In the quarrel and reconciliation, mistakes and forgiveness, our relationship continues to grow, but also a tacit understanding and trust. He may not be seen as “the best” by others, but this strong emotion will make me feel that you are “good enough”. What’s more, our heavy but valuable commitment exists only between us, and the deep feelings that result are exclusive to us. You then become my only good, and I become your only good, and no one else can penetrate this subtle connection. In fact, no one is born to be our only one, but the efforts of both parties can elevate each other to be the only one. But all such things start with finding the right person.
If you find that you were born with some core traits, such as emotional sensitivity, abstract thinking, idealism, and a good heart, you may want to find someone who understands and appreciates that about you. If these personal characteristics that you feel are most important to you cannot be loved by him, you will feel lonely even if you are loved by him. This is because what he falls in love with is not the core you, but the peripheral you, from whom he will always have a strange distance. This kind of strangeness is something he can’t draw closer to even if he picks the moon off.
A man may fail to embrace the core of you, but he can still please you in so many ways. He may be able to take you to the realm of romantic tic, lighting heart-shaped candles at the beach, what with composing songs for you and what with hand-made gifts. Although all are the heart, but are not aimed at the target; no main course, side dishes to eat more only feel fatty. This brings us to the difference between young and mature romance.