Marriage experts tell us that in a happy marriage, the choices made before marriage are more important than the hard work after marriage. On this point, our old ancestors also advised: “The mountains are easy to change, but the nature is hard to move. So, what kind of men are most likely to have sexual cheating behavior after marriage? How do we screen to prevent encountering a situation like Red’s?
A man with low self-esteem who always feels he is not worthy of love and not successful enough is much more likely to cheat on his wife after marriage.
Emotional experts often caution women that if a man says he doesn’t deserve you, then he’s not being modest, but he really doesn’t deserve you. This is truly insightful.
Most of the time, it’s not up to outsiders to say whether a person is good or cute, it’s up to the person to feel good and cute. So some people who seem to have successful careers, outstanding looks, and are admired by many of the opposite sex, may still feel a great inferiority complex, and this feeling of inferiority will be hidden more deeply by them, often in the dead of night when he is alone, the feeling is only stronger. Some people expect to choose a partner who they think is better than they are in order to combat this inferiority complex, so today’s young people favor the “rich and handsome” and “rich and white” marriage status quo.
Those who are eager to find a partner who is superior to them in every way actually have a great deal of self-confidence hidden in their hearts, and need to rely on the superiority of their partner to make up for their own feelings of inadequacy. And such a person, the possibility of cheating after marriage will be greater – because the feeling of inferiority comes from his heart, outsiders can only temporarily and partially fill his feeling of inadequacy, and moreover with a partner he thinks is very good together, in fact, the days will only make him more inferior. In this inferiority complex, he can’t help but long for someone even better, or to find someone weaker than himself to worship so he can feel some of the thrill of being looked up to in order to boost his confidence and sense of self-esteem.
This is the fundamental reason why the man who is clearly inferior to the woman in every way ends up cheating on her.
Two, after the marriage cheating is more likely to be the kind of lack of long-term life and career planning, or lack of clear goals, no hobbies, but also no tobacco, alcohol, gambling and other bad habits, the inner emptiness of the man.
Time old man allotted to everyone is 24 hours a day, and every physically healthy person has basically the same amount of energy, thought and mental space, what people will do with that time and space depends on how he What people will do with that time and space depends on how they see life, how they see themselves, and how they see themselves in relation to life.
And when interacting with life, each of us has desires that cannot be fully satisfied, when there are primal desires that are repressed by social rules, such as greed, vanity, adventure, etc., and also a lot of stress and oppression due to survival, which are These are the energy that surges within people, and these energies will not disappear just because they are ignored, repressed and condemned, but will always exist. Since it is an energy, the only way to address it is to channel it.
Most people choose to channel this energy into motivation for their inner needs for life and career goals, for their favorite hobbies, or some will use bad habits like smoking, drinking, and gambling to detoxify, all of which allow them to achieve a sense of spiritual The pleasure and satisfaction (and whether it is a long or short-lived). But if a person feels that none of the above is applicable or interesting, he or she will feel depressed and empty, like a bottomless and powerful black hole of fear, an anxious feeling that everyone wants to desperately avoid.
When avoidance occurs, people panic and find random things to fill themselves with, such as internet addiction, drug dependency, an affair, or unemotional sex, while trying to feel comfortable with their true feelings and rationalize their behavior. People also create a range of seemingly reasonable excuses, such as poor social mores, men’s instinct to spread their genes, partners not being good enough, just a small pastime, etc.
Three, men who were not serious about love before they got married, who had more open and diverse sexual values, and who did not see sexual fidelity as part of the responsibility and commitment of marriage.
Fourth, there is another type of man who is prone to cheating after marriage, with a strong sense of vanity, a heavy sense of comparison, no sense of self-independence, and the psychological and personality characteristics of going with the flow.
Our society has developed to this stage: all kinds of high technology is swarming, the network information is exploding all the time, and all kinds of crude movies and TV dramas are flooding the screen but people are happy to accept them. In such a fast-food culture, everyone is in a hurry to walk, to live, to talk to others and then to move on, too late to think about what they really want, too late to check if what they are walking is the road they really want to walk, and not to ask what they feel inside, just to see everyone is like this, so they also close their eyes and follow The lack of their own independent thinking and judgment, see what the people around them are doing, they blindly follow the trend to do. At this point once he has friends around him have an affair cheating behavior, or friends tell him that people are now so playful, followed by young women who are not wives will make him look respectable and have a faction, then he may do the same – just to get the so-called twitter sub sense of approval.