Loss of love is an emotional process that everyone goes through, and it is actually one of the necessary processes of personal growth. However, this does not mean that, with this layer of knowledge, it can reduce the pain when you fall out of love. What do we do after a breakup?
If the beginning of a relationship is a pink peach, very beautiful; then in the honeymoon is a red rose, passionate as fire; after the relationship is over, everything becomes a fading flower, the former bright color fades, the fragrance of the flower is changing to the smell of corruption, everything will be like an old photo that has turned yellow, fixed in the background. The old yellow photos, fixed in the black and white gray moment. The moment it starts to wither, it is the beginning of lost love. The only way to get out of a broken relationship is to bury the good things of the past with your own hands, which is a painful and cruel process, the only way you can get out of the shadow of the past and move forward again.
What is a breakup
In the general sense of the word A “breakup” is when an infatuated person is abandoned by his or her romantic partner. The main emotional reaction caused by the loss of love is pain and anguish, most people can correctly treat and deal with this phenomenon of love frustration, happy to move on to a new life. However, there are some people who cannot exclude this strong emotion in time. This leads to psychological imbalance and personality perversion.
Lost love comes from the other person’s denial and disapproval. This is very common in relationships. Each person is an individual, just because you like someone else doesn’t mean they will like you. What you like he may hate, which causes a lack of fit. Theoretically, we all understand this, but we can’t control which side our hearts lean to, which person our feelings like, and this is the source of the pain.
What to do after a breakup
To get out of a breakup, focus on Learning to let go. The process of letting go is to recognize that the other person is not going to like you, or that the two people are not in a position to be together, so actively or passively, we need to let go of the person, the relationship, and not let them hold you back.
1 Letting out all the bad feelings after a breakup
No matter The first thing you need to do is to get rid of the problem. The kind of want to cry and dare not cry, and even have to force a smile, on the surface seems to be very “strong”, but in fact is a very big damage to their own. Anyone should have the right to cry, especially in the loss of love. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
2 Don’t stalk each other
There are people who fall out of love, and in order to The majority of people will have the urge to find each other to talk and communicate properly. In fact, this time to find each other to talk about the psychological motivation is “let’s start again, we can clarify all the misunderstandings, and then we will be good as ever, or we start over, leaving behind all the previous misunderstandings”, which is why the final negotiation in the love field is always never finished. The problem is that this undying attitude in exchange for the other side is more and more impatient and bored. The right approach is to “get going, the faster you go, the more decisive you are, the more active you are, the more face you save, the more shock and attraction you cause to the other side”, which is “not to dwell”.
3 Calmly and rationally analyze what’s wrong with us
After suffering for a while, we should face ourselves rationally and calmly analyze what went wrong. Since the breakup is already a fact, we should be brave enough to face the reality. Remember, as mentioned earlier, it’s not a matter of right or wrong, but a matter of suitability. All you have to do is find out what you can’t stand about the other person; when is the other person happiest and why? When is the other person most miserable and why?
After you find these factors, see which ones you can change, and change them if you can. The next time you look for a lover, look for someone who is more compatible with your “traits”.
4 Don’t be afraid to let people know you’re out of love
The most embarrassing thing about being out of love is that everyone knows it. The most embarrassing thing is that everyone knows about it. It is also very afraid of people asking “why did you break up” and other questions, because the breakup, for a jilted person, the most difficult thing to deal with is not knowing how to explain to outsiders why they were abandoned. The average person will use some strange immature reason to excuse. If you have a friend who knows how to pretend to understand and is embarrassed to ask further questions, although it is with a little puzzled look away from the lost love is barely tolerable; in case you meet some people who like to break the sand pot to the end, often ask the person concerned embarrassed abnormal, the more sad and painful mood.
If someone is still pretending that “I am in love with my lover” when they are out of love, this mentality is a little bit sick. It is recommended that when you fall in love do not be afraid to let others know, or even take the initiative to let others know, at this time, if you feel that others ask long questions so that you can not stand, you may wish to apply the following formula: “so-and-so, I announce to you a bad news, I was abandoned, the other party has another object. I am now very sad, but I believe that a few days later will be better. Please don’t ask me why and let’s not talk about this anymore, okay? Thanks, bye.” Then go back and have a good cry, and you’ll see that the loss of love is not so terrible.
5 Learn to be strong
The most common emotional reactions of people who have fallen out of love in the early stages The most common emotional reactions of people who have fallen out of love in the early stages are loss of confidence, self-hatred, indignation, feeling ashamed of themselves, or self-loathing and escaping reality. The method of revenge is not desirable, and their own discouragement, daily tears, miss business, look pathetic, in fact, this is a bad emotional reaction. For these actions only make the other person more complacent, without the slightest benefit to themselves.
The best way to deal with the indignation after a breakup is to live a good life, be self-sufficient, live better than before, and try to make more progress and development in your future education and career, and marry a better person in the future.
Perhaps now you still can’t get over how cruel he was to you, can’t accept that he’s been gone ever since, can’t believe the embarrassing end of your relationship. The first day I met him, if I could love again, I could experience the sweet and sour in love again, I could be a person who used to be deeply possessed, listening to him humming love songs, getting wet, walking, you may not really regret this relationship, you just a little regret, admit that you can’t let go because the memories are so intoxicating, but also tell yourself that you didn’t love this person for nothing, even if he didn’t teach you anything, at least let you know more The first thing you need to do is to admit that you don’t want to be in a relationship because the memories are so drunk.
Two people meeting, knowing and loving each other is a kind of destiny, but the destiny of each other does not necessarily last until the end of life. So, we need to be strong to leave each other and look for someone to be with again, and then, bless him to find the right person. Perhaps in a few years, we will look back on this youthful romance, and we will all smile, and everything will be in words.