Now, there is a new term, male best friend. It probably means about the same as the old blue-face confidant. Both men and women maintain a pure and unbounded best friend relationship. It is a good idea to have a good friend in your life. The company’s main goal is to provide a good solution to the problem.
There is such a man who is informed and understanding; who can be used as a man when moving or shopping and as a woman when confiding; who is willing to give, who is willing to listen to chatter, who is willing to be your emotional trash can; with whom you can talk about everything and who is mentally The most important thing is that you can be close to them, but there is no blood, no intimacy, no ambiguity, and no love. …… They are the “male best friend”. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
More and more women are eager to have a “male best friend”
“Male best friend” is similar to “blue confidant”, which is an extra-marital (or extra-romantic) emotion that keeps a certain distance and is different from a third party relationship, and belongs to “less than love, more than friendship”.
From the American drama “Sex and the City” to the Chinese hit TV series “Men”, “33 Days of Lost Love” and “I Might Not Love You”, the intimate “male best friend” shines on the screen and touches women’s hearts. The “male best friend” shines on the screen and touches the hearts of women. A network survey shows that more and more women in the workplace are eager to have a “male best friend”. The company’s main goal is to provide a platform for the development of a new generation of women’s products.
“Male BFFs” are not exclusive to young people. “The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to its customers. This pair of work together for more than a decade, working together tacitly, invincible, known as the “perfect combination”. Ms. Li laughed: “5 working days a week, we are bundled together from 7:30 a.m. to 5:00 p.m., more than the time spent together as a couple!” Ms. Li is straightforward, strong character, often inadvertently offend people. Whenever this happens, the steady and delicate Da Qiang will remind her, and even guilty of straight advice. This, most female colleagues are difficult to do so because of the face. Ms. Li confessed that although they appreciate each other in the workplace, but they are not each other’s favorite love object, “he loves the bird-dependent type, and I like to be emotionally rough. This predestines us to be best mates, best buddies.”
“Why can a man have a confidante, but a woman can’t have a ‘male best friend’?” Beijing white-collar Lan Lan, a girl with a distinct personality, has a variety of “male best friends” with different personalities and interests. She climbs with those who love adventure, discusses drama with those who love literature, asks academic questions from those who are dedicated to learning, does charity work with those who are passionate about public service, and even opens a travel bar in partnership with a senior donkey “male best friend” …… She exclaims. “There are many kinds of ‘male best friends’, there are many kinds of rich life possibilities.”
Beyond gender boundaries, the “male BFF” is catching on as a phenomenon.
What are the roles of male BFFs
1 The role of the male best friend
In addition to the general social context, the search for complementary strengths of gender differences is also an important reason. Many women believe that the “male best friend” can advise from a completely different position and perspective, both in terms of work and relationships. Psychologists say that men think about things differently than women do, and that women can gain a different experience when they interact with them.
In a sense, a “male best friend” is a “helpful” alternative to love. “emotional complement” to love. Women also need appreciation and affirmation from the opposite sex, and many women often complain that their lovers or spouses “don’t understand” and “don’t appreciate and value me as much as they used to”, while “male best friend” is different. The dual identity of male and “bosom friend” makes women feel very confidant, tacit and attentive.
2. Affirmation from the opposite sex
In addition to the objective reference to each other as the opposite sex There is a hidden advantage beyond the pointers you make to each other as the opposite sex: having an affirming voice from the opposite sex when you’re feeling low or insecure.
Know that affirmation from the opposite sex can make human adrenaline explode, for both men and women. If, at a time when you need strength and comfort, a person of the opposite sex stands firmly by your side, that warmth seems more useful than any words of comfort or same-sex companionship. It’s not that same-sex friends aren’t important, it’s just that at some point, the opposite sex is more immediate and powerful, allowing you to recover and be healed instantly.
In terms of mental health, humans need both same-sex and opposite-sex friends, both types are equally important, and in life, we often allow only same-sex friends, which is a repressed need.
But this also leads to the additional risk that two people may be unknowingly attracted to each other. This is a red flag, because two people who can be friends are not necessarily suitable as a couple.
However, the popularity of “male best friends” has also caused some controversy. Some people questioned that “there can be no pure friendship between men and women”, even if the beginning is still relatively pure, but there is no guarantee that there will not be love over time. The company’s main goal is to provide a platform for the development of a new generation of people who are interested in the same products.
In fact, the likelihood of developing a relationship from a “male best friend” to a lover is still low. A survey showed that 58% of women said they would not have a relationship with a “male best friend” that went beyond the boundaries of friendship. As one woman said: “You have your boyfriend or husband, he has his girlfriend or wife, you are close but will not take that step beyond the boundary. Because in each other’s mind, the other person is actually genderless, and even if you look at him for 10 years, there will be no other heartbeat ……”
But this The “fourth type of emotion” between friendship and love is already very delicate, so although the possibility of the “male best friend” deteriorating is not high, you should still pay attention to the distance and grasp the “degree”.
“The selfishness of people cannot be denied.” The fact that men and women have become “close friends” does not preclude some people from using it to hide their feelings for each other. The identity is deliberately blurred is not practical, once the degree of bad control, it is lost a hair, a thousand miles. Both men and women should pay due attention to boundaries and privacy when interacting with each other. Especially married women, must be careful not to affect family relations.