In terms of traditional women picking a partner, there is a tendency to look for an older, mature man to take care of them. As the saying goes, a woman who is old enough to hold a golden brick. With the development of the economy and society, it is becoming more and more fashionable to find a younger brother lover. Is the brother lover reliable? Can two people spend the rest of their lives together?
Xiaoling and Xiao Chen have been together for three years. Whenever they go out, the two are praised by outsiders as a good man and a good woman, Xiaoling is secretly sweet in her heart. This time, with a smile opposite Chen, everything is in words. Friends also feel that the two are very well matched, the only beauty is that Xiao Ling is as much as 5 years older than Xiao Chen. The only downside is that Xiao Ling is five years older than Xiao Chen. Three years later, the relationship between the two people has reached a fork in the road, so to speak, and every time Xiao Ling thinks about it, she doesn’t feel good.
Let’s start by analyzing why sister-brother relationships are suddenly popular. Some people summarize three main reasons: First, the world has changed. The good men than their own big cage can not find, than their own small crop of boys a crop to the outside, they are not low quality and favor the sister, that does not sister-brother relationship and so what that? Secondly, men in life today is very stressful, they do not want to take care of others, but more want to let women take care of themselves, so, marry a sister and a small mother is a good idea, especially the actress beautiful outstanding, and money piles of cheap accounted for a great deal. Third, the influence of Europe and the United States, Japan and South Korea. According to survey statistics, in recent years, the sister-brother relationship in the UK has risen 25 times, and more than half of the young generation in Japan and Korea revere sister-brother relationship.
According to a foreign diary of a single woman, “Men in their 30s have many problems and are tiresome. They sigh all day long, have anxiety problems, and severe delusions of grandeur, thinking that all women will try to get them to fall into the marriage trap they have devised. These days, I’m interested in small men in their early 20s alone ……”
But there are obvious downsides to having a large woman and a small man, although age is not an issue, height is not a distance, and weight is not an issue. The problem is not the height is not the distance, the weight is not the pressure, as far as physiology is concerned, women forty rotten tea crumbs, men forty a flower. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
Secondly, personal values are different. The three-year generation gap has been updated to a one-year generation gap in today’s rapidly developing society. The two of them are only a few years apart, but their childhood and teenage fashions, lifestyles, and contact circles are very different, which naturally affects their personal approach to life and the pursuit of life.
Also, a young personality is not mature. The woman definitely wants to find a man to take care of herself for a lifetime, and if she finds a younger brother lover, the face is there. However, this brother lover will not be the same as your brother capricious do not know how to do it? Doing the wrong thing is not recognized, you have to clean up the mess, can not bear the burden of marriage. This completely defeats the purpose of a woman coming into a marriage in the first place.
Lastly, there is pressure from friends and family. Although sibling relationships are an emerging fad, though it is inevitable that onlookers will look at the relationship with an interested eye. If they break up, then they will sigh: I should have known it would end up like this. If the two have been together, they seem to be watching a TV show in anticipation of something. Plus the older generation is more conservative, it is likely that they can not accept this rebellious feelings, if the man can not stick for the feelings, then as a woman can only fall full of injuries. At that point, it’s really a chicken-and-egg situation.
But theoretically, “big woman, small man” is the ideal marriage model.
A social survey on divorce rates found that 2/3 of divorces were directly related to sexual dissonance! This shows that sex plays a pivotal role in marriage and family. The first time I saw a woman, I was able to see that she was a woman.
The combination of similar age is the most common in life, generally have more than a decade of “sexual gold” period, to both into the age of confusion, sexual harmony will be more or less on some discount, marital turmoil also. The most common way of life is to have more than a decade of “sexual prime” and to have more or less sexual harmony after both have entered their twilight years.
So the combination of a 30-year-old man and a 40-year-old woman should theoretically be ideal, because both parties are in their physical and psychological maturity. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
For men, it is newer than mom, experienced, not preachy; sister slightly plump, sister thin, malnourished, flirtatious; sister Bao is sweeter than sister Lin; secure, not pretentious, sister will make people happy, considerate. “Find a woman older than yourself as a partner,” has become fashionable in recent years among many young men. The standard of choosing a spouse has changed implicitly, and the traditional young and beautiful is being replaced by pragmatism like “mature, pure and feminine” in the minds of more and more men.
A woman who is physically, mentally, and personally mature has the most appeal to men. The kind of little girl who is a vase is obviously not appropriate, while women who already have some life experience tend to be able to go in and out with themselves.
If only from the point of view of pure female beauty, of course, it is better to be young, but the experience, wisdom, warmth and even the accumulated fat of the sister gives off a dark fragrance of charm that men can endlessly aspire to, which some call ” The deep scent of ripe apples”, rather than the superficial flowing fragrance of flowers.
Nowadays, men are big fatigue, they are more eager for this kind of plump embrace, sister’s understanding tenderness can relieve men’s inner stress and suppression follow, have a good therapeutic effect.
So there are many kinds of pressures that sibling relationships can endure compared to relationships of similar age, but this age gap can be beneficial for the longevity of the two.
Whether it’s an older woman or a younger man, the essence of love remains the same: two people who truly love each other. The criteria for judging a good partner will also not change, that is, with him will feel relaxed and happy, as if they have found another good view of life. The actual fact is that you can find a lot of people who are not able to get a good deal on a lot of things.