Why would a husband want to move out when his wife is young and beautiful? No reason, for the excitement and fun. In this day and age, we have to face a reality: the presence of sex workers is an impact on the relationship between the sexes. They are like a cancer gene that comes with the partnership and can be activated at any time, posing a deadly threat. And in addition to the sex that the ladies need to pay for, there are the impromptu one-night stands that happen unexpectedly in all kinds of social settings – as long as we are honest with our lives and honest with ourselves, we can’t close our eyes or cover our ears and fool ourselves into thinking that it’s not real, that it would only happen to someone else – no, it’s human nature, and it’s the claustrophobic human nature that we all have to deal with.
What to do when you meet your husband looking for a lady
When told that he goes to Miss or have one night sex, many women feel a strong pain of being humiliated and attacked.
Being humiliated is the most intense emotional feeling wives/girlfriends feel, and that is like a deep swamp that cramps and squeezes the dignity of being a woman. “In this case, they have to compare themselves with the ladies, and this comparison itself, in itself, makes women feel intensely insulting. At the same time, the ladies are right there, strongly tempting the men around us, leaving our partnership in a dangerous state, which makes us feel both a strong sense of rejection and a kind of cynicism towards the ladies.” Said counselor Dong Rufeng.
And for women, there’s a big difficulty with the dirty feeling of being “soiled” by a man. The guy has been in the dirty place of a lady, how can he still enter my body? This is the voice of many women.
This is the psychological dirty feeling – the crippling of the relationship, the shame of the woman, and the anger of being attacked, all projected in the dirty identity of the lady. When women say that everything is dirty, this actually has something to do with devaluation, because what emerges in the midst of our imagery is not the totality of a female figure, but a magnified, blurred, and at the same time disgusted picture of the female sexual organ.
How is this psychological squalor removed? It’s a very big conflict between partners that can’t be resolved in one or two simple ways.
What wives should do
Also under attack is our self-identity as a woman’s self-identity. “The thing about him going to the ladies, most women will blame it on themselves: I’m not sexually attractive and that’s why he’s going out; also, the ladies must offer better sex, etc. And these can evoke self-depreciation of women’s self-worth and sexual attractiveness.” Counselor Xu Weisu emphasized that the fact that men are looking for young ladies “has nothing to do with your sex appeal as a woman, and that’s especially important, so if you encounter this kind of thing, the first thing a woman needs to do is stop the self-attack.”
“De-sexualized wives”-Counselor Gong Xueping analyzes the matter of men going to the ladies from this perspective. “The legendary good woman good wife are family life decathlon, that is, no sex, and this view is absorbed by both men and women, is to ‘desexualize’ the wife, while the wife ‘mothering’, the function is divided It is clear that a wife is a wife, and the woman used for sex is outside. We think in an extremely childish way about sex, that is, we make the world very clear and classify people into categories, so that the world is not unpleasant to each other and is well handled, but this classification is extremely childish. If we were mature people, we would acknowledge that there is a ‘slut’ living in every woman’s heart.”
Why do husbands confront their wives but seek out young ladies
“There is such a difference in the nature of sex with a wife and sex paid for by a lady. To a man’s deep subconscious, wife sex is within the framework of civilization, law, ethics and morality, it is agreed upon by public order and morality, this sex is the prescribed action, that is, what we feel is normal sex.” Autopsychologist and counselor Xu Jun said. This normal “sex with his wife”, is called by many men “to pay the public food”. The paid sex of the lady is a taboo, is not allowed by law and morality, men through this paid sex, both to break the taboo, but also to meet their naked animal sex. According to Xu Jun, paying has a psychological meaning: “It is a boundary of relationship and responsibility.”
Many men don’t think they’re cheating because they’re “paying for their genitals” but not their hearts, and they’re good at separating the top half from the bottom, which they don’t think is infidelity. Some of them even believe that by doing so, they are protecting their marriages from breaking up and preserving monogamy – shall we give credit to this divisive idea?
Get mature, this is life
In this case. We have to face the truth. Life just comes with a lot of these betrayals. Life must go on, and we cannot imagine marriage as pure, even if this responsibility is the essential requirement of marriage. If we are always high and mighty, for example, we will always just say how wonderful love is, or how good monogamy is, or how faithful this marriage is, which is actually unrealistic, and these statements may be a dream.
The reality we face is that we desire and enter into partnerships, and then there is destruction and disappointment in the partnership, which itself changes; we have the city of the institution of marriage, and there are those who come to attack it and those who want to escape it; similarly, we have the need for fidelity, and there is the need for fidelity. need, there are stowaways and betrayals of the need for fidelity.
. This is life, there is no panacea, the ladies are there, they cannot be eliminated, but there is nothing to fear, we still have to live, we still have to operate, we have to love, all we can do is to face this life. The only way to get the most out of your life is to face the darkness of human nature and the dilemma we are in right now, in front of life, so that we are not like a baby with the illusion that the world is my imagination.
In addition to improving your own cultivation to increase your charm, you should also care about your husband and have enough communication and traffic between the two of you. And also the relationship between the two people should be carefully maintained in order to keep warm. Is this a tough way to run a marriage? Yes, but that’s life. Giving doesn’t always pay off, but not giving has a much greater chance of being let down.