Shakespeare once said that whoever is a prisoner of the green demon will be fooled. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to its customers. If a life pattern for a long time, will inevitably feel boring, gradually from familiarity, habit to indifference, just like a ton of unchanged eat a delicious, will also be bored. At this point, people’s attention is easily attracted by the novelty of the target. But for whatever reason, neither the betrayer nor the betrayed should easily give in to an affair.
Nine psychological aspects of men who cheat
Cheating is an extramarital affair. It generally includes prostitutes, one-night stands, extramarital lovers, and second wives, etc. It can be said that these are immoral or illegal acts that should be condemned or legally sanctioned. But condemnation and sanctions to this day still can not solve the problem, but more and more aggressive, what is the reason? We have been questioning and investigating people with STDs and extramarital sex for more than a decade and have concluded that the psychological factors for cheating are as follows:
One is curiosity. Curiosity is in everyone, and when it comes to sex, men are more exploratory. If only to explore between couples, will add color to a legitimate sex life. But some men with less self-control, in the “wife is like this, what will other women be like?” Attracted by such an unknown mystery, they will have sex outside of marriage. If you find that sex with other women is no different from sex with your wife, or not as good as your wife, and may also cause some trouble, then he may stop it. If he finds that the “wildflower” tastes different, and he has some financial means or charm, he may also be addicted to it.
The second is the risk-taking mentality. The last two lines of the saying “a wife is better than a concubine, a concubine is better than a maid, a maid is better than a thief” is a portrayal of the adventurous mentality. Usually men are more adventurous than women, if used in conjugal life, may be able to create some new patterns, or to mobilize interest in conjugal life. But if used in other women will be a problem. Some men encounter setbacks in the process of sexual adventure – such as sexual dysfunction, contracting or fearing sexually transmitted diseases – and may return to their families. There are men who take risks for fun, and that’s dangerous. Then there is the individual man who can only get sexual pleasure or overwhelming sexual feelings from sexual adventures, and he may then repeatedly commit them.
Three is the conquest mentality. The desire to conquer both men and women have, when in love with a man to chase a woman to the hand, or a woman will be a man under the skirt, belong to the conquest of psychological satisfaction. After marriage, some men in order to show their skills, or to find self-confidence, or because of the desire to conquer other women to meet their desire to conquer. Conquer the woman’s “sex” purpose in several ways: (1) capture the woman’s heart and body. (2) just want to possess the woman’s body. (3) in sex to make women want to live and die, to show their sexual ability. (4) there is a special phenomenon, some men like to watch women’s sexual response – especially orgasmic response, they will observe by conquering different women, or even through prostitutes to achieve the purpose. In this regard, Ximen Qing in “The Golden Lotus” is a typical example. The first time I saw a woman, I had to go to a place where I could see her.
Fourth is the compensation psychology. Men appear to compensate for the psychological triggers are divided as follows: (1) wife due to sexual dysfunction, sexual psychological disorders, injuries and illnesses can not meet the husband, or due to sexual misconceptions and unwilling to meet the husband, or even sexual punishment as a means to resolve the conflict between the couple. (2) the wife or poor figure and appearance, or old age, or disability, etc. (3) wife domineering, fierce, seriously undermining the husband’s self-esteem, easy to make the husband tempted by the outside of the warmth, and then develop into a sexual relationship, and even marriage. (4) The husband’s sexual desire is too strong for the wife to meet.
Five is the psychology of revenge. The woman’s wife is not a virgin, or she is not a virgin, or she has been played with by a woman’s feelings and sexual revenge for psychological balance.
Sixth is the psychology of winning. In some occasions, friends on, their own cowering would be too embarrassing, the result is face harm; or in a bet with others, encouraged, good and strong for it.
Seventh is the psychology of being coerced. The leader attended the pornographic place with the leader, the leader on, they do not go on will inevitably lose the trust of the leadership, had to be complicit.
Eight is the animal instinct. The majority of animals do not practice “monogamy”, the human nature of this animal attribute also exists; when the social constraints do not work, it will reveal the original animal face. The first thing you need to do is to take a look at the actual situation.
Nine is the psychology of fun. Some men are influenced by the trend of Western lust, or the idea of timely pleasure, or the old concept of three wives and four concubines, can not restrain the consciousness of lust and desire, can not resist the temptation of those crooked and evil in society, moral degeneration, to play with women for fun. Some women are good and bad, greedy for money, the pursuit of pleasure, not moral, etc., is also the cause of sexual infidelity of men.
These three types of people are most likely to cheat
Usually, in terms of personality
Psychologically immature people: these people usually treat the marriage partner as their parents, because they have not grown up psychologically, they do not follow the principle of fairness in human relationships, and in marriage they only want to take, not to be responsible . So whenever he feels dissatisfied, he will look outside the marriage to find someone who can care for him.
People who were born to have sex: These people have personality defects and need to satisfy their never-ending, ungraspable desires by constantly manipulating and conquering third parties, through one affair after another, to get psychological and erotic stimulation and temporarily appease their uneasy feelings. They usually think that life is just a game. They usually believe that life is just a game.
People with high emotional intelligence and low stability: People with high emotional intelligence are more attentive to other people’s feelings, and their unintentional actions can win the favor of the opposite sex, so they are especially attractive to the opposite sex. The most important thing is that you have to be able to get a good idea of what you are doing.
Three factors are most likely to trigger an affair
1. Marriage quality couples with lower quality marriages have a higher chance of having an affair;
2. those who are sexually unfulfilled have a correspondingly higher chance of having an affair;
3. Explained by depth psychology, certain moments are particularly prone to affairs, such as when self-confidence and security are threatened in the face of distress or major loss, etc. It is easy to fall in love or have an affair; or when life circumstances encounter major changes, such as studying abroad, people need to seek comfort from their feelings and are also prone to have a crush on the opposite sex.
What couples can do to make the third party have no place to interfere
From the above After understanding some of the factors inherent in extramarital sex from the above analysis, it will be possible to reduce or avoid extramarital sex for men by taking appropriate measures to address these factors. Specifically, the man himself or by his wife will be curious, adventurous spirit, the desire to conquer, etc. to guide the career, work, in order to reduce the man’s extroverted sexual impulses; can also be guided to the couple’s life, such as both husband and wife to improve personal cultivation, to develop a good temperament, through continuous learning to increase connotation; wife usually pay attention to grooming, appropriate dress, to fully demonstrate the charm of women, in the room more The company’s main goal is to improve the quality of its products and services, and to improve the quality of its products and services.
In addition, while giving men the proper space, it is also important to restrain the freedom of the man to get involved in entertainment venues, to avoid his “always walking on the river, which does not have wet shoes. If the wife has sexual dysfunction or sexual psychological disorders and other problems affecting sexual life, should be dealt with in a timely manner, in order to improve the life of the couple. Contradictions between husband and wife should be resolved through discussion, exchange of ideas, mutual concessions, the wife can not often do not have sex as a means of blackmail and sanctions against men, even if occasionally do not accept the male sexual requirements, should also make a reasonable explanation, and take the initiative to show love another day, so that men do not starve. The last special point is that men should pay attention to the transformation of corrupt ideas, morality, focus on the fidelity of the couple; enhance immunity to “fragrant flowers and grass”, take the initiative to avoid the temptation of pornography, to avoid getting involved in pornographic places; remember the old love, care and consideration for his wife, together to create a beautiful married life.