Having an ex is a very common thing in a relationship. Perhaps it’s self-protection, perhaps it’s the feeling that women are careful, perhaps it’s a bit of an unspoken relationship, many men are usually silent about their exes, but in private but silent contact. Why should a man hide his ex from the current one? Vain heart? Cheating? Want to break up? Not necessarily.
Surveys have shown that men will talk on the phone, chat online, and even get together with their former girlfriends to hide past affairs from their current girlfriend or wife, so what is the situation and why do men like to do these things? And what should women do about it?
Why do men hide their past sexual history?
Exes are the biggest enemies of the current generation, and some women are afraid that their boyfriends are still in love with their exes and will force their boyfriends to delete everything they can see, or will constantly ask their boyfriends who is better compared to their exes? The first thing you need to do is to get the best out of your ex.
Men usually have the mindset that more is better than less, and hide their sexual history from their current one. There are also some guys who can’t get over their exes and want to find a new girlfriend to help them get over their past hurts. The first thing you need to do is to get a new girlfriend to help you get over the pain.
It’s true that men who meet old lovers tend to be self-absorbed, thinking that the person they had a relationship with will always keep a love inside them, imagining that the woman who loved them will always love them. The woman will only beautify the man in front of her, but the man does not consciously beautify the past love. So men agree more than women: breakups are still friends. Whether they dumped or were dumped, men are mostly willing to keep in touch with their ex-girlfriends.
Because men and women have different ideas of how to treat old lovers, men can only keep the good old days buried in their hearts.
How do men view their exes?
There was an online verification of how men view their ex-girlfriends. The verification showed that 42% of men keep in touch with their ex-girlfriends on the phone, online, and at get-togethers. Counting the 6% of men who slept with their ex-girlfriends, nearly half of the men were coupled with their ex-girlfriends. In other words, if a man has had an ex-girlfriend, that’s one out of two men who are still in contact with their ex-girlfriend.
54% of men said they would hide their past sexual history, and those who have seen “The Phone” should remember that when Yan Shouyi contacted other women, he could not help but lie to his wife that it was the leader calling. It can be seen that the man in the subconscious, always try to keep his wife from knowing that he has a relationship with other people of the opposite sex. The company’s main goal is to provide a solution to the problem of the problem.
How do you deal with a boyfriend who hides his past sexual history?
1.Turning a blind eye
2. Trust him and encourage him
Boyfriend hides the past. Sometimes it’s because it’s a wound and he doesn’t want to touch it. That’s when it’s time to trust him as a girlfriend and give him encouragement.
3. Think differently
A man hides his past The thing about marital history, and some of their vices, etc. From a man’s point of view, it is understandable that they hide because they don’t want to hurt women, and they want their relationship with their current partner to work out.
A man who hides his feelings can’t be trusted? Find the right man
If a man hides his feelings, he must be weak-minded. Many women hold this thought. So, the original man is just nostalgic for past relationships, but finally made false, really and ex-girlfriend coupling. Get such a result, women will you feel regret? But there is no denying that there is indeed a part of the man because the heart is weak. So how can you tell if the man is suitable for you?
One, he has the right qualities for you
Some girls choose Men, at first, are extremely harsh: not good-looking, not good-sounding, not good walking posture, not picky eating, not tasteful talking …… Although a high threshold may seem like it will allow you to be choosy, it’s actually much riskier because a high threshold will allow you to put many potential opportunities to waste. Many girls are selected from the age of 20 on the super high standard, selected to the age of 30 is not one can be in the eyes of the law. The first thing you need to do is to get a new one.
On the other hand, even if there is someone who does meet your high standards, is that man necessarily right for you?
Choosing a man isn’t about how many flaws he has or how many strengths he has, it’s about which one of his strengths is right for you. For example, you like romance, he happens to be able to say love words; you like loyalty, he happens to not love going out; you like spending money, he happens to be able to earn money for you …… as long as there is an advantage to meet your main needs, then this is a good man. Other flaws, as long as they do not offend the bottom line do not have to be counted.
Two, good men show up in the details
Girls tend to have two ideas: one is to find the other’s flaws in the details of the man, and the other is to try to find a great strength in the other directly.
We have found in our cases that the vast majority of men who are able to grow old with their wives are actually quite ordinary. They are bound to have many flaws and at the same time don’t necessarily have any great virtues. Men are an animal that does not pay attention to details, so observing the details of a man’s dealings with people can reveal a person’s shortcomings. But more importantly, the details can reveal a man’s strengths.
Looking at a man’s strengths before falling in love and looking at his weaknesses afterwards is the “surefire way” to choose a good man.
A man who is good at details is like this: they don’t argue with you about the smallest things. You argue about fine things, they will be scolded by you after also to coax you, they will quietly stuff money in your wallet, they do not know how to romance, but willing to accompany you shopping for hours, they like children, but the right to give birth or not to give you. Good men often do not have the wealth and appearance, but they have something more powerful, which is tolerance and smile.
It is said that a woman’s heart is a needle under the sea, but in fact, a man’s heart is not easy to understand either. Everyone inevitably has a predecessor, and it’s normal to have a predecessor complex. To put it calmly, if such things happen to women, perhaps many women will be rational, but happened to men, especially men around, women unconsciously to another place to think. The woman, perhaps a little time to give men a little trust oh.