A beautiful marriage requires honesty and responsibility from both sides of the marriage, as well as tips and tricks to face specific things. The combination of these two aspects will definitely build the marriage strong and happy. So, to have a perfect marriage, you must first start with the little things, pay attention to the details, and live each day with consideration and tenderness before you have the possibility of spending this life together.
No.1: Don’t mention previous embarrassing things
“You’re losing money buying houses, you’re losing money speculating in stocks, and your fund is falling in everything, so if a person like you wants to invest, you might as well just donate your money!”
“You just have no taste in clothes. Last time you attended some conference, the doorman thought you were a repairman and kept you out, don’t you remember?”
“What do you think you’re capable of, you’re from the countryside, you don’t have money or a house, if you hadn’t knelt down in front of me, I would have dumped you!”
Have you ever said these overly hasty words when you fight? Usually good, but once the quarrel up, we think in our hearts, is how to choke each other to death in one sentence, so that they get a complete victory. The result of the quarrel down to find that, in addition to feelings hurt, no one has convinced anyone.
In fact, couples often get angry, quarrel and fight because of some trivial things in life, and it is good to be confused when dealing with these small things. You can ease the tension with some relieving, witty and amusing words, and a witty and humorous remark can make the other person’s anger dissolve.
No. 2: Don’t pick the flavor of the dish
“You’re not letting people eat this dish?”
“Don’t like it, next time you make it”
Whoever picks on the taste of a dish at dinner often encounters this stiff response. This really can not be blamed for the unfriendly attitude of the people who do the dishes, you know, cooking and eating, is a necessary daily homework. Not see how fatigue hard, still have to wash vegetables and cook, and, so easy to make things, and be eaten and dumped, no sense of accomplishment. If at this point, then encounter each other inconsiderate accusations of the taste of the dish, anyone will be nameless fire, bursting with anger.
So, if the dish tastes tolerable, make sure you give a few compliments. Even if it’s really bad and you want to criticize, you should be polite. If it’s too salty, say, “A little lighter would be better,” to give people a sense of consideration.
Third: Respect both parents
This is something women need to be more aware of. The reason for this is that most men in real life are more likely to be in the same boat. The reason is that in real life, most men are very filial to their father-in-law and mother-in-law. However, wives, often have a respectful mentality towards their in-laws. This, of course, is caused by the disharmonious mother-in-law and daughter-in-law culture that prevailed in China in the past, but more importantly, wives nowadays do not believe in the goodwill of their mothers-in-law. In fact, men would like their wives to be filial to their in-laws. Men are more big-headed and not delicate enough for the elderly, if as a wife, can take care of their parents with sincerity and respect, as a man, will feel very sweet and grateful. Once the conflict between the wife and parents, caught in the middle of the husband will be embarrassed, serious cases will lead to divorce or husband extramarital tragedy.
Article 4: Don’t bring unhappiness home
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No. 5: Don’t be afraid to “lose” a fight
Bumps and bruises are inevitable between couples, and smart couples are able to choose their “roles” based on the situation after a fight. One party can do this by buying a small gift that the other party likes, saying a humorous word or doing something that makes the other party happy. Depending on the quarrel, the roles should be switched, today you “beg for peace”, tomorrow it may be my turn to “beg for peace”. The “long victory” in marriage is meaningless, but deepens resentment and hurts the feelings of both people.
Article 6: Pay attention to financial issues
If you can’t get the balance right, you’ll have a family problem. If you can’t get the balance of income and expenditure right, you will have a family financial crisis that will affect the couple’s relationship. In some families, money is under the general control of one party, and if financial disclosure is not possible, family conflicts will arise when one party’s financial requirements are not met. Therefore, the couple should work together to manage their finances, adhere to the principle of keeping the family within the limits of income, frugality and careful budgeting. Always have some mobile funds in hand, in case of unpredictable use. This way, you can prevent financial crises before they happen and keep relationship crises at bay.
Article 7: Be careful with friends of the opposite sex
According to a survey, The “blue-face confidant” “red-face confidant” has become one of the main reasons for couples to divorce. The old saying: day by day, friends of the opposite sex together for a long time, it is easy to have a misplaced proportion, will make their spouse uneasy and unpleasant. Therefore, after marriage, it is necessary to eliminate too close relationships of the opposite sex. For those who obviously have a good feeling about themselves or not to their friends of the opposite sex, to take the initiative to distant, to be sensible to deal with emotional entanglements. The best way is to try to attend fewer social events where you are the only one present, and even if you can’t refuse, make a request to bring your lover along.