When going through a relationship, everyone has different gains and losses. Some people seek and delay to be sure down. Some people always feel that the people around them are not suitable and insist on looking. I don’t know, every relationship, also has its cost. If it has been always on the detour to fight, this cost will have to add a cruel word: time. What are they? The first thing you need to do is to take a look.
In the game of love, there are costs and rewards, just as we are used to smiling back at the people who smile at us. In the process of choosing a partner, we are unconsciously but carefully comparing our give and take, and thus choosing our lifelong partner. Now that this is happening for real in everyone’s mind, we might as well lift the veil of mystery and count the costs we encounter in love.
Love has a cost
Most of us would like to believe that love is the most romantic thing, where there is the most selfless devotion, the most moving smiles, and the deepest memories. Even if the jade is broken, it has its own preciousness.
We have to admit that there are transactions in everything on earth, not necessarily in goods, money, or power, and not necessarily only in the mall, the workplace, or the food market. Even if we can’t see the transparent bar, or even realize the contrast in our minds, it’s still real and true.
In the game of love, there is a cost and a reward, just as we are used to smiling back at the person who smiles at us. In the process of choosing a partner, we are unconsciously but carefully comparing our give and take, and thus choosing our lifelong partner. Now that this is happening for real in everyone’s mind, we might as well lift the veil of mystery and count the costs we encounter in love.
Stop counting the money you pay for love, the candlelit dinner on the first date or the fancy car you get for your birthday. We’re talking about the psychological burdens that lurk in our hearts and minds, yet are far more important than these monetary substances – these psychological burdens are the most expensive and potential costs we bear in love.
Nowadays, all kinds of older men and women are looking for help, and even I have female classmates who are brave enough to be on the “non-committal”. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
The cost of love
Looking, wealth, and age are all capital in the marketplace for choosing a mate. The market for capital, but for women, age has become an additional cost in choosing a spouse under the trend of “leftover women”. The girls around me say “I’m 26, you know”, while still immersed in a childish view of love hesitation, or is happy to commit the “five reasons why you can’t find a boyfriend” Lu Qi said “perfectionism will The “perfectionism will pick away all men” that big mistake. The appearance towards the “beauty of the late” into the selection criteria and self-pricing is still stuck in the “20 ~ 24 years old” stage that men like from 20 to 80 years old girls. Men will consider the costs and benefits, what competitive advantage? The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to its customers.
In a time when “bility” is the norm, occasional pretense is one of the essential games for small men and women. However, for men and women in love, the small pretentious cute, old pretentious pit. The love if you are not, you want to capture the rounds of too much, anyone feel no longer, the play can not sing. Pay too much time and feelings, a push not down, two push not from, push three or five years still not pushed down, count not worth it, can not afford to pull down. This is the era of enough “fifth modernization”, everything is running at high speed, one thing has a hundred solutions, romance can be automated at the touch of a button, the cost of operation is too large, inevitably be labeled as “difficult”.
The Cost of Marriage
Once you get married, you are in a siege, and you pay How much you give, how much you lose, are the costs. Family, children, time, energy, even a change of heart and a sense of insecurity all count.
Marriage is a continuation of consumption, not only in terms of production costs, but also in terms of usage costs, which can be effectively reduced by choosing an economical, energy-efficient and durable partner. The most important thing is that it is not just a matter of the cost of production, but also the cost of use, which is higher than the cost of a long-lasting relationship that can “withstand the years”.
When two people start a family of their own, when they become lovers and partners, when love cools down and chores come to a head, security and habit become the benefits of the marriage, and it takes responsibility and commitment. The most important thing is to get used to each other in the process of “using” is the greatest love.
When it comes time to end a relationship or marriage, many people are reluctant to give up a relationship that has caused them pain because they can’t afford to quit, especially women, who feel they have given too much and can’t afford to give up the cost of the love they have invested. And once the relationship ends, the previous years of operation will become a sunk cost, things will depreciate, and so will the gender relationship, depreciation is also the cost of using this relationship. In addition, the passion for feelings and life, time, property investment from the second-hand depreciation, must be ready to re-commit once again to get used to another brand new person, everything from scratch. The cost of “splitting” is too high.
The Cost of Love Theory
The proposed Cost of Love Theory is not an economic concept, but a social concept. economic concept, but a social concept. That is, when we can’t tell if a man loves you, we can use the cost of love to identify it as a sign and standard for men in love.
The cost of love theory is a male/female distinction. Women are emotional creatures, so they give love itself is to give life, which is the biggest cost in life, there is nothing else to calculate. In other words, a woman who loves a man will ask him to give a little less, while a man who loves a woman will actively ask to give a little more.
Simply put, the cost of a man’s love is measured by what and how much he is willing to give for you. A man without money is willing to spend money for you, a man with money and no time is willing to spend time for you, this is a manifestation of love, that is, what he lacks but is willing to spend for you, is a cost of giving. Another situation is in a long-distance relationship, where a man abandons his job and everything he knows to run to be with you, which is a very big cost to pay and ends up with a very high success rate in marriage.
Don’t take the concept of cost in economics and apply it to emotions, it’s a different field and it becomes claptrap.
Whatever the cost of a relationship is, the most important thing is to find the right person and this time the cost will all become worth it. If, for your own reasons, you miss out on the most suitable person around, then pay more than you find. Keep your eyes open and don’t miss out on the right person for you.