The phenomenon of cheating after marriage is very common nowadays, and it is normal for two people to get along for a long time and get tired of it. Many men only think about the momentary pleasure, but they don’t think about how much it costs to cheat.
An extramarital affair is a non-conventional human emotional activity. Because of its special activity pattern and input-output method, dissecting it with a cost analysis makes it easier to reveal its unconventional and anti-moral nature, and thus to reduce the chance of occurrence.
Integrating the portrayal of extramarital affairs in street talk, lace news, and literature, the costs of extramarital affairs can be categorized as follows.
Choosing to cheat loses the wife’s affection
Choosing an opportunity means giving up another opportunity, so the choice comes at a cost, and that cost is the cost. For example, if you starve yourself in order to lose weight, then the desire to lose fat to achieve a slimmer body is the gain, then the meals starved and the resulting hunger and damage to the organs are the cost of the input. Due to the exclusivity of human love, the choice of extramarital affairs will sacrifice the once beautiful and happy family, and the resulting negative impact on personal reputation. When a person is married and faces the temptation of love, he or she can choose to be determined or to have an extramarital affair. Then, when an extramarital affair is chosen, the opportunity cost of sacrificing family and personal reputation is paid.
May experience a basket case
Doing anything There are risks, and to guard against those risks, there are costs. An extramarital affair is a high-risk activity because it is not a regular affair. In order to prevent the risk, it is necessary to engage in caution and thus pay more energy, material and financial resources, which is a risk cost. The other is that because extramarital affairs are not protected by law, they are always in danger of disintegration. In order to stabilize the relationship, both men and women or one party will take the risk of spiritual cage and material temptation, and these inputs are also risk costs.
Other aspects of life impacted by cheating
Extra-marital affairs In order to know each other’s situation, whether out of concern or with the nature of reconnaissance, both parties have to achieve it through telephone, Internet, letters, interpersonal communication, etc. Therefore, they have to pay for telephone, Internet usage, communication, interpersonal social costs, etc. In addition, one or both parties to the affair do not get the correct information about the outcome of the relationship between the two parties to the extent that they become addicted to it, and eventually the lack of information or asymmetry leads to the failure of the emotional activities of both parties, bringing about feelings of pain, regret or helplessness, which affects their personal careers, which is also an information cost.
The cost of being with a mistress
Anyone who wants to eat and entertainment, and the parties to an extramarital affair further increase the consumption of meal and entertainment costs due to their unique situation. Since the two do not aim to live, but to enjoy themselves, the cost of meals and entertainment is higher than normal. One of the parties to an extramarital affair in order to please the other party will often carry out a higher level of consumption, few novels depict extramarital affairs two people together to drink porridge and eat pickles. In the case of the novel, the two sides of the affair often engage in entertainment in the form of singing and dancing in cabarets, or going to cafes and teahouses for tea and gossip, which costs more.
The affair pays in terms of etiquette, one is the cost of buying flowers, which need to be sent to wrestle with each other’s good feelings on Valentine’s Day, each other’s birthday, Christmas and so on. The second is the cake and small food, the other party’s birthday or holiday, the purchase of cake or melon seeds, peanuts, sour plums and other small food to regulate the atmosphere. In addition to children, everyone eats cake and small food only to eat its symbolic meaning, so the cost in this regard belongs to the cost of etiquette. Third is cosmetics, mostly for the cost of the woman consumed. Fourth is clothing, buying clothes for each other to maintain a good image and consolidate the relationship.
Cheating becomes common
Currently in society The phenomenon of “mistress” is widespread, some consider it abnormal, and in a way, it is becoming more and more normal. As society continues to develop, people’s basic desires have been met, they will begin to pursue their own inner or spiritual satisfaction, which will give rise to many of the social phenomena that we have seen in the past are very different. Many people are becoming unwilling to control their own desires and demands.
The “sub-lover” is now becoming popular, a kind of “spiritual mistress”, if you will, that people use to It is a kind of “spiritual mistress” that people use to relieve the fatigue of society.
“Sublovers” are largely independent in their own right, not dependent on anyone, and in some cases even more spiritually and emotionally fulfilling.
In terms of numbers or popularity, “second wives” are necessarily a very small minority in society because they seek monetary and material satisfaction, which requires men to have The good material conditions. The “mistress” for this aspect of the requirements are greatly reduced, so some of its own may not be good economic conditions of people can also have a mistress. This makes the “mistress” more common.
How do you keep a man from cheating?
We usually think of sexual liberation as coming from Western societies, and that their marriages are messier. In fact, the real chaos is a small group of people, as the backbone of society, the middle class is mostly conservative. Perhaps they will have multiple relationships before marriage, but once married they will abide by the marriage contract and will not and dare not betray easily. Because the cost of divorce is not low as stipulated in laws and regulations, wives usually take up the weapon of law to defend their dignity and rights when they encounter a mistress.
This has been a hot topic in both the East and the West. Does it have a solution? How to deal with it? How to avoid it? It is undeniable that in China, the increase in the phenomenon of cheating is related to the fact that the cost of cheating is too low. In China, the cost of cheating is relatively low, so the phenomenon of “cheating” can be said to be more serious than many Western countries. All civilized societies now adhere to monogamy. But no one can guarantee that a marriage will stay the same, and it’s up to both spouses to work together to make it work.
Many women fall into the misconception after marriage that if they get married, there will be no problems as long as they keep it well. It will not be a problem to keep it, and will allow themselves to become a wife who has not changed for several years. It is important to point out that after marriage, the couple has to continue to keep things fresh, either by changing their hair, having a romantic dinner, or often bringing each other little surprises.
Couples also need to frequently reminisce about the good things in their lives together. People are forgetful, and reinforcing memories is an essential way to strengthen a marriage. Also, good communication is an essential part of a couple’s life.
Of course, it is also very important for people to have self-discipline. When there is self-discipline, people learn to control their desires, which can also reduce the chances of marital infidelity.
While it is said that men are the majority of cheaters, it is not true that men and women are the only ones who cheat. This also reminds us that the continuation of a relationship requires the joint input of two people, even after marriage can not have the slightest slack. The actual fact is that you can find a lot of people who are not able to get a good deal on this.