Divorce is a form of eliminating marital crisis, but it can also cause heartache. There are active and passive parties in divorce, and the passive party often suffers more and has more psychological problems, mainly the following:
I. Psychological emptiness. When you first get divorced, you feel free and relaxed, but when you see other people’s families in harmony, your own inner loneliness can be reinforced, and your life is more likely to be empty, and people who have lost their joy are prone to pessimism and misanthropy.
Second, filled with an excessive sense of failure. This sense of failure tends to negate the courage and confidence to face a new future and a new life.
Three, there is a sense of shame. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
Fourth, there is a sense of anger. The abandoned party, in particular, often wants to make noise, interfere with the other party’s work, and even verbally abuse and hurt people.
V. Love and hate coexist. The dual coexistence of these feelings can also make people mentally “split” and cause a lot of pain, especially in the case of children.
Love is not the whole of a person’s life, and without love, one can fill the void with career, friendship, and family. You can’t just live in the past, you should live in today and expect tomorrow to be better. Through the storms, there are also things worth remembering. It is not hopeless to find a new beginning in the future.
Mental Analysis:
The emotional trauma of divorce for both spouses, especially the woman, is immeasurable. The mental trauma caused by divorce is immeasurable, and the main psychological trauma it brings to women is a sense of loss, loneliness and low self-esteem. This series of mental pain can also seriously affect a person’s physical health, so divorced women should come out of the shadow of divorce as soon as possible.
Psychological prescription:
The first adjustment for women after divorce It’s about working on psychological independence, believing in yourself, understanding yourself, and taking the initiative to set goals and plans for yourself so that you can find a good psychological transition from the state of loss of marriage.
First and foremost, it’s about maintaining self-esteem. Don’t ever think that being divorced is a failure, that it makes you lose value, that you are half a cut below others. To look at yourself, your partner left, but self-esteem can not be lost, to believe in yourself, to prevent inferiority and self-abandonment, and find ways to promote your strengths through work, study and other activities, to show your strengths and realize your self-worth.
Talk frankly with friends and family. Phuong feels that people around her are prejudiced against her and that no one can understand her misfortune. In fact, this is not the case. As long as you do not close yourself off and speak frankly to your parents, relatives and friends about your feelings and future plans for your life, they will understand you and support you.
Try to shift your environment. The environment can have a great impact on people’s emotions, and a scene from the past often evokes many sad memories for the person concerned. For this reason, Fang may wish to change the environment, go for a walk, to adjust the mood will be very good. The world outside is vast, and it will make people forget their worries and come back to be more focused and diligent in their work.
Fighting for emotional replacement
Psychologists and marriage experts’ Research studies have shown that after a couple divorces, women have a higher chance of remarrying within five years than men. To eliminate the feeling of loneliness and helplessness after divorce, it can be diluted by establishing a new family, but this should be a prudent and cautious thing for Fang. Because of the experience of the first marriage change, Phuong will be more cautious and cherish happiness, therefore, don’t miss the right opportunity if it comes. According to information, many remarried women feel happier than when they were first married.