Some people often get bored in the process of dating the opposite sex, leading to a rapid disintegration of the relationship. This can not only give people a feeling of unreliability, but they can also suffer from it themselves. So, how do you get rid of this emotion? What if you feel bored with your lover?
Retake an objective look at your relationship cycle!
Do you feel regretful about getting bored with your boyfriend so quickly? If the answer is no, it means simply just a short relationship cycle. This type of relationship is also normal. If the answer is yes, then let’s analyze it together.
Biologically speaking, women tend to have a “point deduction” approach to relationships
Women tend to have a “demerit point” approach to relationships. If the initial score is 100, the score gets lower and lower as we spend more time together and gradually discover each other’s flaws. The first thing you need to do is to make sure that you have a good understanding of what you are doing.
Taking these data into account, women are more likely to be attracted to men who are passionate about courtship. They will engage with them even if their appearance is not their preferred type. However, after the relationship there is a tendency to measure the other person in a point-deduction style.
Relocating relationship patterns based on biological traits
If you’re too much on the passive side of relationships, it’s time to improve. If the opposite sex is enthusiastic and you feel the same way, ask your friends for a group date before dating. This will give you a more objective opinion.
Also, relationship psychology promotes what is known as In addition, relationship psychology advocates a relationship process known as “SUR theory”. The initial stimulus stage (Stimulus) is from the first meeting to the early stage of the relationship, this stage will receive stimulus from various aspects such as appearance, voice, personality, and social evaluation. The mid-value stage (Value) is the relationship maintenance period, a stage when the interests and values of both partners resonate.
Think of the transition from the Stimulus Stage to the Value Stage on this basis as potentially uneventful. Try to add interests or things that you can share before you interact. Don’t be set in your ways, try to meet in different settings, try new challenges, and look at each other in multiple ways. Take enough time to bond before making it official.
As for getting together, meeting at a pace that doesn’t suit you from the very beginning or at an inappropriate time is also a reason why it doesn’t last.
A short relationship cycle is not necessarily a bad thing
Finally, I want to make it clear that is that the marriage rate for couples who actually fall in love at first sight is very high. People’s sixth sense is very accurate. Your relationship may be of the intuitive type. There is no need to be anxious, but first start by accepting your relationship type and getting to know yourself objectively again.