When his interest in you cools down and he doesn’t warm up as much as he used to, it means that love may be entering a stable period, but it may also be a sign of a crisis in the early stages of fading. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
I. Understand his feelings
First you have to think about “Why did he get cold feet?” You can imagine the answer for yourself. “Did he fall for someone else?” “Two people have become separated over something?” “Because of a job transfer, his ideas about planning for the future changed?”
If he’s just become cold and detached from you, but hasn’t initiated a breakup, you should see the time to ask him tentatively. Do not vent their discontent, put on a reasonable attitude, but to use the wind and rain to create an easy to talk to the environment, take a gentle offensive, in order to make him unconcerned to spill his heart. The first to strike always prevails, aggressiveness can only bring the end of the breakup. He may have fallen in love with someone else, but considering you, and caught in the choice is difficult to extricate themselves. It is also possible that because of certain things, there is a gap between you, and you can not avoid arguing when you meet, so that he is upset. Many times, you can not get the real answer from his mouth, the argument can only let the truth buried in his heart forever. Paying attention to the wording and guessing his mind is especially important when talking. Again, you have to set up possible situations in your mind before you talk.
Situation 1: “If he doesn’t love me, then I’m not going to force it and it’s goodbye”
If you really have sensed from his eyes, words and actions that his heart is no longer in your body, then a good relationship is the best way to go. But if the heart is not willing and you have to know why, then you might as well ask him, and you can take this as a valuable experience and live it to the next relationship.
Situation 2: “He’s just a little lost right now, and I want to give him a chance and myself a chance to get my love back”
Seriously, it’s actually pretty hard to do that. But if you really want to be brave for once, then all you have to do is adjust your mindset first. For example, even if you know that he is lying, but do not rush to blame, leave everything to time, after a while, he is likely to confess to you himself. You should always think that such a conversation is to improve the relationship between the two people, and shouting and screaming can not solve any problems. Instead of releasing your feelings, it is better to give in to each other and find a compromise.
II. When you understand that his heart is gone
This is the time when Distance is important. Over-chasing and forcing is only counterproductive. When you deliberately keep a distance from him, he may re-examine your relationship, the previous companionship with the people suddenly one day not around, the emergence of loneliness is very obvious. If he still feels good about you, he will naturally take the initiative to contact you. If you don’t hear from him from now on, then you can let go of the emotional baggage and find new happiness.
You can also use this period to take an objective look at your old self. Think about the previous time you were with him, was it just to fill your loneliness and isolation? You can ever truly think about him? When you are with him, you are radiant and energetic? It is this constant self-reflection that will allow you to change and grow. This is because these changes in your growth may save your love for each other. The first thing you need to do is to take a look at yourself, and when he sees these changes in you, there is a chance he will come around.
And don’t think he’s the only man in the world. Humans are much more resistant to emotional stress than you might think. You may think that he is the only one for you and that losing him will take away your ability to fall in love. But no matter how much you used to love that person, you are still able to like someone else, that time and then look back at their former selves, do they also think that their own silly cute back then? It is not advocating to find other men as backups, but I want to say to you that you have to be confident in yourself and believe that there are many, many quality men other than him.
Three, a necessary lesson in life – relationship troubles and breakups
Good women are built through the trials and tribulations of relationships. Every relationship experience is a valuable life experience for you. Reflecting on the reasons for this failure plays a good guiding role for the future. If you are just sad and sad, choose to deliberately forget, not to explore the reasons, insight into their own shortcomings, then you may fall again on the same issue. Take stock of the lessons learned so you can discover a better version of yourself.