Female matchmaking has become the main force in the matchmaking team, and because women are always shy, they often bring their companions along. However, there are sometimes some problems with bringing along a companion. Here are three tips for women before, during and after a blind date.
Before the blind date
Prepare a way back. Safety first
On Nov. 10 at 11 p.m., 28-year-old Liu Lijun walked into a restaurant on Nanjing Road, the sixth blind date she had attended, and unlike the previous ones, there was no family involvement throughout this one, and the match was She contacted herself through social networking sites. Although in the matter of looking for an object, Ms. Liu herself is not in a hurry, but under the urging of her family and the stimulation of the sweet life of friends and colleagues, she gradually feels that she has also become an uncompromisingly leftover woman, and several blind dates have made her comfortable with the process of dating.
Seeing a bouquet of pink daisies on a table near the corner, Ms. Liu sat down, which was her code word for meeting with her blind date in advance. A minute later, two more couples walked into the restaurant and sat down in front of a nearby round table, they are Ms. Liu’s childhood playmates, but also Ms. Liu’s “think tank” and “bodyguard” for this blind date. But after less than 10 minutes, Ms. Liu left with a smile and an excuse. “It seems that the more blind dates, the more picky, today this really is not my cup of tea, so I made up a reason to leave, after a few hours and then send him a text message to explain clearly, at most only friends.” She said.
Women often prepare themselves for an exit before a blind date, with half of them choosing to have their best friend call to reach out at an agreed upon time, and the other half coming up with their own reasons for leaving ahead of time.
And marriage experts warn that women must consider safety issues before a blind date, and it is best to choose the blind date location in a public place, which appears to be a solo date, but in fact there may be their relatives or close friends secretly observing not far away, in case there is a situation, just leave quickly.
On a blind date
Take your partner with you
While the blind date didn’t work out, Ms. Liu did make a smart choice to bring a “think tank” as a counselor. The survey shows that nearly 30% of women will bring their companions or girlfriends to the blind date, the younger the girl the higher the possibility of bringing companions or girlfriends. And close to 80% of men said that if they have a crush on the companion of a blind date, they will find a way to take action to get the contact information of the companion of the blind date. The women must be cautious about bringing their companions to the blind date, otherwise they are likely to go from the lead role to a supporting role.
But the few minutes of communication between Ms. Liu and her blind date is a serious misstep in the eyes of emotional experts. The company’s main goal is to provide a better solution to the problem.
Don’t ask about your partner’s income right out of the gate
Surveys show that women The survey shows that women are extremely curious about men’s income levels and real estate situations, while men are not very willing to answer such questions. A high school physical education teacher Xue, who participated in the survey, told reporters, “If a man is shy, he must be embarrassed to say that if he has money, he will always feel as if he is asking for money for impure purposes when he runs into a woman like this.”
Emotional experts recommend a few relatively safe topics for women: What do your parents do for a living? Introduce your family members? What kind of life do you want to lead? Where did you go to college? What are your career plans?
After the blind date
The key moment to Learn to say no
For women, the first date breakup is often a critical moment that determines whether the relationship will continue, and emotional experts say the most important thing for women to do at this point is to hold their ground. Men usually ask graciously to send girls home, and even some men invite women to visit his home, when they must learn to refuse, because smooth sailing will make men feel unchallenged. Surveys show that less than 10% of women will initiate contact with men after a blind date, and this includes women after 70 who will seem impatient and women after 80 who are relatively reserved.
Among the 40,000 male and female “bachelors” surveyed, there were 703 Qingdao singles, only 10 of whom said they were on a blind date to fall in love, and the remaining 693 said they were on a blind date to get married. The remaining 693 people said that the purpose of dating is to get married. The number of women who went on a blind date just to fall in love was only 1.2% nationwide, while the number of men who went on a blind date just to fall in love was 2.4%, a small percentage but certainly double the number of women.
The two weeks after a blind date is called the “Golden Fourteen Days,” in which men and women get to know each other and communicate with each other, they can usually tell what the other person is doing on the date, and only the two sides The two weeks after the match is called the “golden fourteen days”.