It is said that one infidelity is not necessary for a hundred times. But there are always women who want to forgive the cheating man and be with him again because of their soft hearts, because of their children, because of other reasons. Then, the shadow of cheating and worry about how to do? Come to see the analysis of the editor before you decide.
Do you want to accept him who made a mistake?
After a man cheats, if you want to make a clean break, just forget about it. If you still love him and it just so happens that he wants to go back, but you can’t get past a hurdle in your heart, what should you do?
What to think about the mental shift: men are like big kids, needing to be pampered, coaxed, and occasionally playful, but they will always come home when they are tired of playing. The actual fact is that you can find a lot of people who have been in the market for a long time. The first thing you need to do is to take a look at the woman’s face.
First, you used to be centered around him as the sun
Many women are surrounded by men and families after marriage, and are overly “good wives and mothers”. The man is now focused on his career with great vigor, and the outside of the girlfriends are more attractive than the wife. The worst thing is that some women care too much about men, at least one phone call a day to keep an eye on, so that the husband’s phone into a “grenade”. The woman who takes the man too seriously and tries to control him too much will invariably produce hysterical emotions that will put great pressure on the other person to escape to another emotional circle, which is often a compensatory behavior for the man.
So how should a woman in this situation deal with her husband’s affair and his return?
1. Forget that he cheated on you. If a woman understands the importance of “defection and reconciliation” to a marriage, she will not fall into the monolithic logic of “marriage = commitment loyalty”. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
2. Starting over is also a turning point. No matter who is having an affair, it gives couples a chance to take a hard look at what went wrong in their marriage. The company’s main goal is to provide a better solution to the problem, and to help the company to improve the quality of its services. It’s not unlikely that a crisis will become a turnaround, and thus a life.
3. Accept that he is in it for himself and not for the kids or anything else. Women should never for years of emotional attachment, or sacrifice the children again, to find themselves a bunch of reasons to say that they can not leave the marriage, and not to honestly face. To be clear about their own self-positioning in the marriage is what, that is, the man’s change and unchanged, should not make the woman in the “tasteless, abandoned” state of dragging. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
Second, give him too much freedom but no bottom line
Give him Freedom, to put it bluntly, is about learning to lie to yourself. You tell yourself that he comes home late because he’s busy at work, that he hasn’t had “sex” for too long because he’s tired at work, that his socializing is a precursor to his advancement, and that his frequent lust for you is an alternative expression of love ……
And he who is tired of circling between his wife and lover has more and more complicated feelings. He is more and more confused as to why you can be so calm and collected, why you act as if nothing has happened in the face of a change of heart, why you still believe in him as firmly and persistently as you did when you were in love. Also, why you have suddenly become more independent and attractive, more so that he can not give up lightly. So, you will still be the winner in the end because the power of your silent, unchanging response to change is far greater than arguments, forced confessions or even pillow traps.
And the way to handle it? Freedom has to have a bottom!
When confronted with a husband who is having an affair, smart wives have one thing in common: they know what they are doing and they are stable. The company’s main goal is to provide a good solution to the problem. Since he knows to go home, and why must be stalked? The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
Accepting a child who makes mistakes is a relatively easy thing to do, and it becomes difficult if that child has hurt you a lot. If you’ve thought it through and really love him, then make an effort to recommit. The premise is to ask him to recommit to the relationship as well.