Nowadays, excluding social factors such as law, morality and responsibility, one of the major culprits of extramarital affairs is “psychological saturation”. The “psychological saturation”. The couple for several years, more than a dozen years, the long-standing relationship with each other, each other’s a smile, a word and a line have been known, so there is no longer a fresh feeling between each other, especially in terms of sex life, become far less intoxicated and obsessed than when in love, a faint sense of boredom began to sprout. Looking at the phenomenon of extramarital affairs, the psychological saturation occupies a large proportion, so how do we deal with the phenomenon of “psychological saturation” in it?
One, do not be in the middle of “lose yourself”
After marriage many people can’t help but see their partner as the most important person in their lives, especially women, and have to The “good like a person”, because all the energy is put into the “other half”, so that women in the “lost” self, too close to the partners will soon lose The newness of each other is quickly lost, leading to psychological saturation.
Dr. William Hankin, a leading American sex psychologist, points out that keeping oneself in the relationship is one of the secrets to a happy marriage. Many people not only “lose” themselves, but also expect each other to give up their own selves, requiring two people to integrate into a “third body” built for marriage, this sacrifice of self for love is undesirable: first, it goes against the original purpose of love –Two people fall in love because they are attracted to each other as “individuals” and lose themselves, so they naturally lose their attraction and freshness to the other half. Secondly, losing oneself can make both partners feel depressed and bound, because true love is a kind of tolerance and should give freedom to each other.
So it is recommended that people who are basking in love take 10 minutes a day to be alone, close their eyes, and think back to the people, places, and events that made a lasting impression on them; it’s like a signpost on a long journey, helping you determine “Who I am.”
Regularly “leave” your partner behind and meet up with just your friends, especially more often with same-sex friends, to restore and replenish your gender role energy. Keeping a journal to record your interests, hobbies, and daily thoughts is also a good way to stay true to yourself.
Two, love needs to be preserved and maintained
The parties in a real marriage must wake up to the fact that getting one does not necessarily mean no more wind and rain! The couple should continue to enrich and improve their own taste in life, so that they can become a “good book” that the other person always reads and never gets tired of reading you a thousand times.
When men and women to please each other, always rack their brains to come up with all kinds of tricks, always want to make each other’s love always as fresh as the vegetables in the refrigerator, the same, but the lovers finally happy hand in hand into the hall of marriage, but the passion and freshness of love slowly fade. When the fading, a lot of reality and the ideal gap will be highlighted, dull and ordinary life, as well as each other in love at the moment intended to hide the shortcomings, will also be in the marriage of two people get along in a glance, if not timely know the “psychological saturation” adjustment, the marriage to maintain, the conflict between the couple will come out, and a more than The first thing you need to do is to get rid of the problem.
Psychological saturation is a “destabilizing factor” that can easily lead a person into a state of professional exhaustion. When faced with work, one feels physically tired, emotionally depressed, mentally drained, creatively depleted, and with a reduced sense of value, and this negative state at work then affects the whole state of life. This is reflected in the physiology of the body, which over time can lead to cardiovascular, gastrointestinal, respiratory and other physical diseases.
Psychological saturation can be seen everywhere in our daily lives and can significantly affect our mood, behavior, and social functioning. “saturation” of the critical point, we should learn to properly release some, may use “distance produces beauty” such a seemingly vulgar, but can give the marriage fresh approach, rather than a marriage, for each other completely lost “The only way to make your own psychology always in a “half-full” state is to take the initiative to add material to the marriage, the marriage nest soup the longer the more thick and not lose the fresh taste!
Three, love needs to be preserved, marriage needs to be maintained
Reality The parties in a marriage must wake up to the fact that getting one doesn’t necessarily mean no more wind and rain! The couple should continue to enrich and improve their own taste in life, so that they can become a “good book” that the other person will always read and never get tired of reading you a thousand times.
When in love, men and women in order to please each other, always rack their brains to come up with all kinds of tricks, always want to make each other’s love is always as fresh as vegetables in the refrigerator, the same, but the lovers finally happy hand in hand into the hall of marriage, but the passion and freshness of love slowly faded. slowly fade, a lot of reality and the ideal gap will also be highlighted, bland and ordinary life, as well as each other in love at the time intended to hide the shortcomings, will also be in the marriage of two people to get along in a glance, if not timely know the “psychological saturation” adjustment, the marriage to maintain, the conflict between the couple will also come out, and a The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible solution to the problem.
Psychological saturation can be seen everywhere in our daily lives and can significantly affect our emotions, behaviors, and social functioning, and as we run our marriages, we should also The company’s main goal is to provide a comprehensive range of products and services to the public. The only way to get the most out of your marriage is to keep your psyche in a “half-full” state, so that you can take the initiative to add ingredients to your marriage.