The traditional concept of marriage is that the husband should generally be older than the wife, and the age gap is usually within a few years, but now more and more young women are attracted to men who are more than 10 years apart. The men. Why do girls like older men? The internet has even given birth to the term “uncle control”. Women often choose older men because they like them to be mature, stable and successful in their careers.
Uncle control is when a young girl in her 20s falls in love with a mature man in his 40s, not necessarily married, but with a successful career. Usually this kind of man is very tasteful, moody, high quality of life man, the body has a light perfume smell tobacco smell, necessary when very gentle, work very focused. The girls of the uncle control will be super adore such uncle. In real life, it is not difficult to find such a pair. So what exactly are the benefits of being in a relationship with an older man?
1. The body has the charm of a mature man
Young The male has a youth that can be squandered to his heart’s content, while the older man with a rich life experience has already experienced a charming charm while the time is passing. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to its customers.
2. He gives you a sense of security
Although it is said that there is no absolute relationship between a person’s mind and The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. The majority of women want to get a sense of dependence and security from a man, and this calmness is definitely something that an uncle can give.
3, he can take good care of you
Older men, in addition to being Mature and stable, there is an even greater advantage. In society for so long, career stability, economic more generous, has accumulated an objective social wealth, these are the fledgling young men can not be compared. A stable economy means a stable life, which is a tempting cake for many modern women.
4. He knows how to spoil you
Uncle men were once The company’s main goal is to provide a better solution to the problem of women’s problems. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
5. An older man can give you enough security
Life experience More, people always want a stable life, even the fun-loving uncle, by this age has played enough, tired of the fancy life, more want a stable family. They are clear until what they want, more responsible and can give you a stable relationship and marriage, for women such a sense of security is very important.
What older men are thinking
The mentality of older men that says they don’t believe in love, have lost all their passion and ideals, are realistic, and even when they fall in love it’s mostly for sexual purposes rather than the other person’s spiritual world, etc. Anyway, it’s abominable. That’s why I always feel terrible when I see men in their 40s and 50s, and I’m busy avoiding them. And they say that very few men of this age can get married, except for the divorced and widowed, unlike younger men who are more like a blank sheet of paper, and unlike younger men who treat their feelings with sincerity and loyalty, love is no longer pure and sacred in their eyes, but only for the pursuit of personal selfishness.
The psychoanalytic view is that everyone has an Oedipal or Oedipal complex in early childhood, and if there is a great lack of paternal or maternal love during this period of prolonged separation from the father or mother, it can affect the individual’s love patterns. I wonder what your early childhood experience was like? Has there been a prolonged separation from the father, perhaps that is why men who are mature and have a father-like flavor are more likely to attract these women, and young and old love is extraordinarily attractive to you.
As for the mentality of older men, the lack of passion and enthusiasm you mention, full of distrust, is a common trait that exists in most men who have entered their 30s and beyond. The actual fact is that you can’t be too sure that you’re going to be able to get a good deal on your own. The 30 year old men are under a lot of pressure, they have to face their bosses and subordinates at work, and they have to bear the burden of house and car in life, one’s energy is limited, when they spend most of their energy on coping with various pressures of life and work, it is no wonder that they are careless about love.
If, because of this, you are too biased in your mind about “older men”, it is not objective. The relationship is a matter of mutual pay, pay attention to the dynamic balance of give and take. In the relationship, many women long for fatherly warmth, regardless of the return to you to pay warmth, fantasizing that they are like a child by the other side care, which is not conducive to the growth of feelings. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
It is advisable to carefully remember your own childhood experiences and tell yourself that the attraction to young and old love is only due to your own desire for fatherly love, and that in fact it is not the older person who has the charm of maturity, who is more caring and considerate. The first thing you should do is adjust your relationship mindset and go with the flow to find your own happiness.
The attraction of young and old love for yourself is only due to your desire for fatherly love, in fact, it is not the older person who has the charm of maturity and knows how to care for others and be considerate. The most important thing about relationships is that they are suitable, and age is just one of the reference factors. The most important thing is that you have the right person, and that is the right person for you.