Nowadays, living together before marriage is the norm, and if two people are “dating with marriage in mind”, then living together is equivalent to a trial marriage. In fact, through many details can be known. The most important thing to do when living together is to pay attention to some details to avoid “marrying the wrong person” in the future.
1.Both parents
If his parents still treat him as a child and want you to be like him children, expecting you to coax him as much as he does, and he enjoys being a son, on the other hand, your maternal nature is not that adequate, which will create a lot of friction later; if both parents do not get along, it will be difficult to achieve even superficial harmony, which will also become a problem; if you do not like his parents, or he is not used to your parents, it will also become a hidden problem for future happiness.
2. How to spend your days off
If you love to sleep on your days off The first thing you need to do is to get up early and clean up the house, and you will have to get up and fight. The difference in wake-up time creates friction that only parents can tolerate; on the other hand, if the other person is indecisive and can’t decide what to do together on the weekend or, on the contrary, always decides roughly what to do, it can be unpleasant.
But this one is better solved by both parties setting a rule, like Saturday is girls’ day and Sunday is boys’ day, and girls take precedence on girls’ day and listen to girls on everything. And vice versa.
3. Whether discussions about children can be agreed upon
It is important to discuss this topic in depth and repeatedly before marriage so that you know if the other person’s ideas are in line with your general direction. For example, if one wants kids and one doesn’t; if one wants a filler education and one wants to develop their personality, etc.
4. The way money is used
One saves, one wastes
Why do you always forget to turn off the lights? Why do you keep leaving the water on when you brush your teeth? One buys it when he likes it, the other always buys the cheap stuff …… Differences in terms of money, differences in the way you buy things actually encompass a whole range of values.
5. Household chores
In fact, it not only includes who should do how much household chores
Other details of life that need attention include: TV remote control rights; diet (noise during meals; whether to drink too much; whether to continue eating overnight dishes or to pour ……); especially now buy a car more and more people, and a new problem: in your driving, he will not always guide from the side (nagging)? He always wants you to follow his route driving? It seems that men who learn to remain silent internally are increasingly rare these days.