There are many things in a marriage that cannot be clearly stated and understood, mainly because the emotions themselves cannot be specifically stated, and there are more trivial things in a marriage that cannot be separated. So when it comes to marital problems, most of them are caught in a state of their own hurt, but forget that the marriage still has to go on. So why do women look for lovers?
One purpose: to be practical
Practical lover characteristics: he has a certain skill or privilege, such as stock market manipulator, airport staff, star hotel public relations, from the hospital attending physician to the street barber. He is durable, gentle, down-to-earth, like the heavy floor of the engine room in a factory, with little ornamental value but infinite practical value.
No matter how the world changes, people can’t live without clothes, food, shelter and transportation, and when you can’t have a craft, it’s not too much to have a lover who has a craft.
Space to grow: This type of lover is the ideal candidate for a son-in-law in the eyes of parents, and it is recommended to move on to the path of marriage with a practical lover. They are not like businessmen who have the possibility of becoming rich overnight, but they can follow him without worrying about food and clothing. The company’s main focus is on the development of a new product, which is a new product.
Purpose No. 2: Start with the strengths to complement the weaknesses
Mutual exchange type The lover characteristics: you can help him write his thesis, he can help you find a job, plus the boy has love, the girl has interest, while in love while helping each other the best of both worlds. This may be a bit like the exchange principle of the market economy, but completely parallel and mutually beneficial.
The difference between a reciprocal lover and a practical lover is that the former is your backer and only you exploit him, while the latter is AA-like and both sides have a clear purpose from the start, with no losses and complementary strengths.
Space to grow: there is relatively little emotional component. Instead of a relationship, it’s more like a non-material investment in each other to save money on tuition with someone you don’t hate and who can help you. Usually there is a time limit, and the outcome is not set by the trend of the relationship, but by the goal of learning something, and by the warm shell of emotions, each taking what they need in an unspoken way.
Goal No. 3: Starting with pleasure
The pleasure lover He doesn’t ask about your past, he doesn’t think about your future, he lives in the moment! Even if he is not rich, at least he is not petty, happy to go out with you to do everything you want to do, and also likes to take you with him to eat, drink and have fun.
A hedonistic lover is best when you’re at an emotional low point and on a road trip. It is used to ease the pain of your last breakup and to distract you from the stress and discomfort of work. You can learn from him to be spontaneous and optimistic about life.
Space to grow: As long as you don’t say break up, he can be your anchor forever; if you feel insecure, he can shrug and be your best friend. Don’t think it’s a waste to give him too much time. A hedonistic lover is a woman’s best relationship teacher, facing him so you can open yourself up wholeheartedly, and only this type of relationship dares to tell you the truth that you can’t hear from other men.
Purpose #4: Profit as the starting point
Economic lover The economic lover holds the resources you are most desperate to get, often a learning goal you are eager to accomplish. For example, you want to become a fashion designer, to study EMBA, etc., what to do? The economic lover is suitable for this time to make an appearance. He could be your boss, or your ticket to career advancement, and with him, your learning path is green-lit all the way.
Only if you keep your head on straight and know what you want at all times, you won’t get them in trouble and can likewise get the most benefit in return for the shortest of actions.
Space to grow: Women are prone to return love for being moved and grateful. It is likely to start out as a study and develop into a fake drama later. It is really hard to say what kind of relationship a man can develop in the end when he does not fund a woman’s tuition for no reason and give her the opportunity to be promoted, which is more or less a sudden and dark love, coupled with the gratitude of the beneficiary.