Studies show that there are six risky periods in married life, and learning to handle them smartly can help you get past these five hurdles.
I. Within six months of marriage
Entering marriage with expectations of love The two people who are married have to deal with more than just the expectations of love, but the expectations are too much to implement on the ground. After two people get married, they have to face not only the romance, but also a lot of trivial matters such as cooking oil, salt, soy sauce, vinegar and tea. Two completely independent people to combine into a family to live together, will also face a lot of friction. For example, two people have different habits, one is used to early to bed and early to rise, one likes to work late at night; one has a lighter taste, the other is spicy. Therefore, upholding the principle of good get-together, long pain, and no child support after divorce, six months after marriage is the high incidence of divorce.
There are no perfect lovers in this world who are perfectly aligned, but there are perfect couples who compromise with each other and keep changing themselves for each other. You should prepare yourself psychologically before you get married for the problems that may arise after marriage, so that you have a psychological foundation when you transition from living alone to living together as a couple. It is better to wait for emotions to calm down and then think about whether the two people really have irreconcilable conflicts.
Two, the wife’s pregnancy
The wife’s pregnancy has simply become The first time I saw the company, I was able to find a way to get the money to pay for it. The company’s main goal is to provide a better solution to the problem of the problem.
Couples should have a scientific understanding of how to treat sex, avoiding the dangerous early and late stages of pregnancy. The couple should understand each other, the man should understand that the woman is at a special time and the couple is making certain sacrifices to conceive the next generation; the wife should also understand more about the husband’s normal physiological needs and can cooperate with him in other ways.
Three, career advancement
Will men become bad if they have money? It’s hard to say, but when a man’s career is on the rise, it’s really a concentrated period when the couple’s relationship explodes into crisis. The woman will suspect that her husband is not having an affair, and she keeps asking questions. The husband who is suffering for his career can’t stand his wife’s unwarranted suspicion and will be ruthless enough to file for divorce.
When faced with a husband whose career is becoming more and more prosperous, the wife will be happy on the one hand but also feel frightened in her heart, and the more she wants to hold on to her husband and know his whereabouts, the more she will make him simply break away completely. At this point, communication between husband and wife is particularly important, the husband should take the initiative to explain to his wife his recent work, the wife should also understand and accelerate the pace of their own progress, do not lag too far behind.
Fourth, the child has just been born
After the child is born, the couple’s The attention is focused on the child, and sex life is greatly reduced. Combined with the hard work of caring for the child and the financial pressure, couples are prone to tension. Wang said that it is possible to ask elders to help take care of the child, and also to face the problem of a decline in the quality of the couple’s sex life.
V. The seven-year itch
At this point, both parties’ satisfaction with the marriage
At this point, both partners’ satisfaction with the marriage has dropped to its lowest point, the most dangerous period for an extramarital affair. Experts suggest that couples should learn to adapt to the dullness of their marriage and look at it rationally, while actively creating opportunities to rediscover old passions, and never blame each other. Tolerance and understanding are the most valuable things between couples during this period.
Sixth, middle age
At this time, the wife enters menopause. become irritable and the husband’s energy has decreased, all of which invariably affects the quality of the marriage. At this time, if you can’t face the physical changes and sexual problems, your lover is likely to look for new passions from other people of the opposite sex. Therefore, caring about each other’s physical changes and talking about your sexual problems can help to get through the dangerous period.