It is a sign of maturity to be able to restrain your desires and not live in your own world.
Love is a form of self-discipline.
Why is it that relationships are instead a form of self-discipline. This is because most of us, unable to restrain our impulses, are not aware of what love is all about. This situation is often easy to fall in love, but after subsiding for so long, many new problems often arise.
It has to be said that the so-called love network, or what we commonly refer to as love at first sight, is really about sexual attraction. This is a role of the original human genes, this kind of hallucination-like feelings, in the human evolutionary psychology, itself a mechanism that helps promote reproduction. But back to modern civilization, we need to get married, we need to start a family, and often this time, we will be largely bound by reality. What was once an impulse inevitably ends up being crushed by reality.
Many times we always convince ourselves at first that we like each other so much that we feel like the world is going to fall down without each other. But once together, slowly the other side of the body will reveal the past invisible ugly and shortcomings, this situation is often a big surprise, most people can not stand, often appear we usually see the quarrel break up, unbearable each other of all kinds, began to blame each other. In fact, these are due to not knowing how to run a relationship.
Building a relationship doesn’t just start when you’re together.
More often than not, before you meet your significant other, you should start planning for your future with an unknown significant other, which is a self-aware emotion and a mature self-discipline, these people will think more about The first to complete the perfection of their own, and rational to accept each other. The first thing you need to do is to be able to take care of yourself.
And for those who are in their own nature, most of them will go through the fresh phase of passion fall off after about half a year of relationship. The stage, this situation of sexual attraction of the original power has slowly receded, the next is the normal of two people, such as communication, personality, three views and so on the friction. Why do you say that the defeat of feelings is time, because with the passage of time, between the two people fit is not obvious. Some people get along well, can always go on, some people can not get along, naturally go on. This is why one’s emotional experience and experience is so important. It allows us to think about relationships from a rational perspective to a greater extent, while not being confused by the nature of love.
Often I see that some lovers have so many situations when they have relationship problems. The worst case is that often the person concerned thinks that the other party has a problem, which is to treat the relationship too subjective, will not think differently performance. The best thing about this is that you can’t find a real answer to the question of whether or not both people have a problem, but you can’t think of it that way.