The most common problem in intergenerational parenting is the tension between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, which is actually some of the smallest things in life such as the baby’s diet and clothes, but it is these small details and conflicts that keep piling up and escalating the conflict between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. And when you want your husband to step in and convince your mother-in-law, I didn’t expect your husband to be “turned” by your mother-in-law ….. This matter, is really so difficult to do? So how can you make mom and wife are satisfied with it? Here are some tips for you!
One, reconciliation
A man should be good at reconciling his wife and his mother. If by accident your wife and mom are at odds, and both of them can’t rub their faces to apologize, then you need a man to reconcile it. Women are more emotional, both the need for language comfort, but also need a little material temptation. The company’s main goal is to provide a good solution to the problem.
Two, the adulteration
Here the adulteration means that the man should be brave enough to transfer the contradiction between the mother and the wife to themselves, and take the initiative to be the barrel of the two. The key to this is to subtly direct the fires that your mother and wife want to send to your own body, so that they don’t send them to each other.
Three, even and
The man should not treat his wife and mother with favoritism, do not give his mother the impression of having married his wife and forgotten her mother, and do not give his wife as long as the affection, not the love of the mouth.
Fourth, stirring
If it’s in front of your mother and wife, both of whom want to love you and take care of you, which one you only accept will leave the other one out in the cold, leading to conflicts between the two of them, there is no choice but to stir and take a compromise, a way not to offend.
Five, persuasion and peace
When you are alone with your wife, you often blow in your wife’s ear, telling her how your mother loves you and how she wants to love her daughter-in-law, how she is afraid that her daughter-in-law will suffer in this house, telling her that she wants her to honor her mother with you; when you are alone with your mother, you often blow in front of your mother, saying The daughter-in-law is how how virtuous, said daughter-in-law often take the initiative to say to honor the old mother, said daughter-in-law will be afraid to do a bad job. In short, to make them feel in each other’s mind that they care about each other.
Six, pass the good word
As the saying goes, “the one who can do both conceals, the one who can’t do both passes”, the man who conceals both is extremely smart, he can not only cleverly let the two women dissatisfied with each other disappear into thin air, but also will please each other for the two women. The two women increase each other’s goodwill and promote harmony between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. The man who passes both ends is very stupid, many in-laws and daughters-in-law would not have much conflict, just some small friction, but after the man in the middle of the communication, small friction will rub out “big sparks”, so that the conflict between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law become extremely sharp, complex, plus some women are too small, so they will make a forever incomprehensible The final result is to put the man who sent the message into the deep water and frying in the fire.