Almost every couple will encounter the problem of quarrel, although fighting is pro and scolding is love, but if the quarrel more often, it will affect the development of the relationship, so we have to face the quarrel sensibly, so what should couples do after a quarrel?
Couples should navigate with guilt after a fight
After finding out that When the temperature of love drops, some people will cry out to their lovers and do everything they can to induce guilt in each other. They will describe the two in love when the vows and heartfelt, and then keep pestering, keep crying about the misery of their situation, the pity of their life. It makes the other person feel guilty for staying away and fading away. The advantage of this method is: for those who remember the old love is very effective, in the love field often also have the role of turning the tide. The disadvantage of this method is: excessive pestering can sometimes be counterproductive, offensive and provoke the other party’s rebellion. After all, no one likes to feel “guilty”.
Couples should use vanity to navigate after a fight
Once Love is not as good as you want it to be, some people will use self-depreciation, pretend to be humble to activate the heart of the lover, so that the other side feel that they control the love, people in front of the son full, in order to achieve the purpose of silent maintenance of love. They will use their words to listen and gain sympathy, so that the other party can not bear to treat themselves badly. They will meet all the needs of the other party in spite of themselves and will also give in on key issues to win the heart of their lover. The advantage of this method is: the use of people “debt to pay” psychology, with “emotional debt” to obtain the security of love, “good to people, will always move Ta it”, “if Ta understands that in addition to me. “If Ta understands that in addition to me, no one will be so good to Ta, Ta will not leave me”, sometimes it really works. The downside of this approach is: the loss of self-worth, it is easy to “devalue” in the other person’s heart, a short period of goodwill, may be effective, but the long-term humble will become really low.
Couples should use jealousy to navigate after a fight
Feeling the other person is being ambivalent or not paying as much attention to them, some people will use jealousy to win back their relationship. They will deliberately contact with other people of the opposite sex, show interest in other people of the opposite sex, or appear to be busy with friendships and dates, in order to induce “jealousy” and possessiveness in the lover and regain the attention of the other person. The advantage of this method is that sometimes it can save the love at the critical moment and can change the other person’s mind instantly. The disadvantage of this approach is that jealousy can sometimes trigger possessiveness and sometimes irrevocable anger, and if you are not careful, it can lead to the complete departure of the lover.