What to do if a blind date doesn’t work? The following is a list of 10 details that you should pay attention to in order to improve your dating success rate.
To avoid selling yourself too much to the other person
Too much parenting can make the other person feel like you’re an emotional codependent who will be approached later to spill the beans if things don’t go your way! In this negative psychological defense, few people are willing to interact with you in depth. On the contrary, in the first meeting, if you only slapdash about your personal situation, only a general, but can give each other a sense of mystery, looking forward to the next meeting with you!
The unsuccessful blind date should fully respect his right to speak
Social Psychological research has found that 27% of unsuccessful blind dates stem from the awkward situation where one person talks too much and the other is speechless! In life, people with diametrically opposed personalities can also become lovers, bosom friends, or blue-face confidants, but for the first meeting, the two sides are not familiar with each other, and everything starts from scratch, so the principle of absolute fairness should be observed. It is recommended that you leave as much time as possible for the other person to talk during the conversation, so that you feel thoughtful and equal.
If a blind date doesn’t work, pay attention to your eyes
Eyes focused on The other person’s “triangle” wanders. The triangle formed by the top corner of the other person’s eyebrows and the bottom corner of the two cheekbones is called the “focus area” by psychologists. Talking with each other, if your eyes constantly wandering in this “triangle”, will give people are strongly concerned about themselves to become the focus of the feeling, which will make people feel better about you! On the contrary, if you look at the other person dead in the eyes, it will make him hostile from the start.
Find the intersection with the other person quickly if the blind date doesn’t work out
If you encounter someone whose experience is so different from yours and whose thought patterns are so diametrically opposed that you can’t find common ground, it’s appropriate to repeat the other person’s point of view to show that you’re on the same page with them. This way, the other person will feel self-satisfied and feel better about you!
Minimize gestures and verbiage when speaking
Unintentional gestures and verbiage while speaking can reveal your inner feelings, and if the other person is a psychologically savvy person, your nervousness can be caught instantly, resulting in a series of lost advantages and initiatives.
During an unsuccessful blind date to put down your strengths and value the other person’s expertise
Don’t just gush and brag about your strengths, which can make the other person feel overwhelmed, you can ask more questions about his hobbies and expertise, which will also stir up new conversations and your desire to connect.
Don’t talk about heavy topics if the match doesn’t work out
Don’t just plow through the roots to Don’t be curious about lost love, breakups, unemployment, etc. Even if you are curious, please wait until you are more familiar before asking.
The sunshine smile and then smile again if the match is not successful
The real A smile is not as simple as an upturned corner of the mouth, but a measured muscular movement. A study found that the infectious effect of a smile with open teeth is nearly 30% higher than a pursed smile, and don’t worry about your uneven teeth. 70% of Asian men say: they like girls who smile a lot and have little tiger teeth! And women love to see the sunny side of a man.
Be bold and make your own profound moves if your blind date doesn’t work out
Just like Jolie and Pitt, the men are ever so vicissitudes and the women are ever so flamboyant, you can actually have your own profound moves, but don’t be too pretentious, if you just can’t find a good signature move, then you might as well give each other a profound back.
Dating doesn’t work to trust the first sense to amplify the sixth sense
When your first sense tells you that the person in front of you is worth continuing to interact and get along with, you should amplify your sixth sense at the right time. When both the first sense and the sixth sense are in play, you should know what you should do next.