Young men and women before they get married are quite fond of each other and adore each other. With the development of love “trilogy” that is good feelings – adoration – bonding, often in the honeymoon period feelings rose to a peak. However, with the end of romantic love, the beginning of married life, young couples are very easy in real life into the contradictions and friction, people call this period after the marriage “break-in period”.
1. correctly understand the inevitability of the post-marital period.
Getting married and starting a family means the beginning of two people living together. The world has changed from a one-person world to a two-person world, during which there is no shortage of friction. The reasons for this: First, the love stage, both parties are careful to give both sides a good impression, less revealing weaknesses and deficiencies. After marriage, with the depth of life and the passage of time, the two sides of their respective weaknesses by revealing, it is easy to appear the feelings of friction. Second, before marriage, men and women different habits and hobbies more abstract, so that both sides forget each other’s habits, but also easy to cause emotional friction. Third, the love stage of men and women each have autonomy, especially the economy and behavior relatively unrestrained, after the marriage of the common life needs family concept, if one side on their own, causing each other dissatisfaction, plus the small family inevitably have some unexpected affairs and expenses, especially when the views are not the same, if not handled properly, also easy to lead to conflicts. Fourth, the lack of experience in sexual life and sexual disharmony, but also easy to cause friction between the feelings of the couple. From the above it can be seen, only after a period of post-marital bonding, the couple’s feelings will enter a relatively stable stage. Therefore, the couple should objectively and correctly understand the grinding period, and should take active measures to promote the transformation of the conflicts that exist in the grinding other with.
2. Do not have too high expectations of each other, to mutual understanding and tolerance.
Before marriage, one party often has quite a good feeling about the other party and holds There are great expectations. After marriage, as time goes by, you will gradually find some weaknesses and shortcomings of the other party, which is common to everyone, and there is nothing to be surprised about. If these weaknesses and shortcomings, not to the detriment of the overall situation, then you will close one eye, do not see or less see those weaknesses and shortcomings, do not go to seek each other. Franklin said it well: “Open your eyes before you get married, and close one of your eyes after you get married.”
3. When it comes to work and study, husband and wife should encourage each other and work together.
For the unexpected difficulties and problems encountered in life, we should consult each other, resolve them properly, and make peace with each other.
4. Seriously deal with the conflicts that arise in sexual life and improve the quality of the couple’s sexual life.
Consult your doctor if necessary and learn something about sexual medicine and sexual psychology.