Many pure men who are husbands are lamenting why the small fresh, gentle, considerate and skilful girlfriend before marriage is gone, but has become a daily nagging every end, very grumpy yellow face? The reason is not complicated, before marriage most of the girls are clean and lovely, and by the crowd’s favor, never involved in household chores, cooking and other things. But after marriage is not the same, women have to deal with the food and oil, they are responsible for almost all the household chores such as laundry, cooking. No time and energy to clean up their appearance and mood. This makes them lose their former beautiful face and gentle and virtuous, and turn into whining yellow faces.
The sweetness of passionate love peters out with marriage
Before marriage, in the relationship stage, women can rely on instinctive and subconscious reactions to do the things that stimulate oxytocin secretion. Their trust in their partners is a heartfelt and natural act. However, as time passes, the way they speak and act changes. In a long-term emotional relationship, expecting to be able to maintain the natural and instinctive romantic tax dollars forever, women are bound to be disappointed because their partner is under increasing pressure and he cannot always be as attentive to the woman as he was in the heat of the moment. Likewise, women will not continue to be as passionate about men as they were in love. After marriage, the feeling of being in love will gradually fall into a dull state.
After a newlywed couple’s honeymoon, various conflicts in their lives will gradually become apparent. When women feel more and more pressure, they lose the feeling of love. Once the novelty of love has receded, they need to be more realistic about the various problems in their lives. The stresses of life and work make women stop showing consideration and concern for men and instead often express complaints and resentment toward them.
Women need their husbands’ consideration and love before and after marriage
From the husband’s point of view, the wife has changed a lot since marriage. In fact, she behaves no differently from the average wife. When a woman is in love with a man, she is happy every day and often expresses her gratitude to him in order to let him know her accepting attitude toward the relationship. Once married, the wife is unaware that her husband still needs her affirmation and gratitude, and believes it is the man’s responsibility to do something to show his love for her. She is unaware that her husband wants her to express more appreciation for what he does. When a man’s support is appreciated, he will continue to give. If his partner doesn’t visibly respond to his support, he can easily lose the motivation to give because he doesn’t want to do something that doesn’t make the woman happy.
When a woman feels she is giving more than she is getting support, sooner or later she will get angry at him. When a man does something for her, she gets very emotional and even lash out. At such times, what a man must keep in mind is that his partner is out of balance and has no room for more giving. If he continues to do trivial things for her, there is hope of winning back her heart.
Couples should give more to their partners, and giving loving responses to their partners is a reflection of their rapport with each other. Both partners should be hopeful, not desperate, about their relationship; if they don’t see hope, they lose the ability to give each other unconditional love and consideration.